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Shortening cervix worry

So a month ago my doctor suggested I start progesterone injections the injections took 3weeks to be approved by my insurance so I got my first injection last Thursday that same day I had an ultrasound and my cervix was at 2.6 my doctor explained it was good that we started the injections because at 2.5 he would be worried but that hopefully the injections would start making a difference well the day after getting the injection the bottom of my belly felt so heavy and I was extremely uncomfortable I attempted to call the office but the nurse wasn't available and was told to call after hrs🤦🏿‍♀️ anyway I wait and get someone who only relates messages to a Dr (not my dr) but that Dr said that wasn't a normal side effect of the injection and to go to the hospital...I didn't but felt great the next day which was Saturday and also great on Sunday well Monday comes and while at work I'm extremely uncomfortable and in pain I finish my work day and go to the hospital after I was checked and my cervix was at 1.6 but that it was still closed 😥 the dr there told me he would let me go home only if I went straight home and went to bed and called my dr in the morning...my dr called me at 830am the hospital I went to he works out of so he knew I was there the night before we talked he said he was going to be making some calls to figure out what we're going to do but I absolutely had to be off of work and be on bed rest he also decided I start progesterone gel vaginal suppositories/injections we talked about doing a cerclage but that I have to wait to see the high risk specialist which isn't until April 5th 😫😥 I am trying so hard not to worry but I am freaking out that it's taking too long to do something I feel like something should be done now but they told me this is the process. Baby girl isn't due until July 31st I'm only 21 weeks and 5days I had my son at 27w6d and he was in the NICU for 8 weeks it was so rough and baby girl is just way too early. So now I'm just laying here and praying baby girl just keeps on baking I'm excited to meet her but just not yet!🙏🏿💝

Last reply Oct 13, 2021

Hey checking in on you. Were you able to carry baby full term? With my first pregnancy I found out I had a short cervix at 22 weeks. I had a cerclage and vaginal progesterone. I’m pregnant again and this time they did a preventative cerclage.

LONG ASS STORY , NEED ADVICE! Situationship or fuck buddies ?

Hey Mamas I need some advice! So it a long story but basically I’ve been separated from my husband since January of last year . I gave birth to my second child a few weeks later in February( that’s a whole other story in itself ) All new to me being a single mom and figuring my dating life out . Fast forward to October I thought I had met the man of my dreams , I mean he swept me off my feet he was absolutely perfect ! He asked me to be his girlfriend and I was more than excited to accept his offer. A few weeks after he asked me to be his girlfriend his work schedule got crazy because of the holiday season , we barely spoke on the phone or saw eachother. I’d see him once a week maybe and he’d always make an effort to call me when he got off work sometimes 3am. Fast forward to Christmas , I was a little upset because he was an hour away at his sister house so I had no plans to see him but then he asked me to come see him so I drove and hour to go see him and I was elated because when is the last time we spent time together? I ended up sleeping over but I had to go home to greet my kids so I left the next morning. When I got home I didn’t hear from him unless I hit him first the whole time he was at his sisters, I felt like since you have to time to talk to me you should be more than excited to but also I understand this was his first day off since thanksgiving. I mentioned it to him that it bothered me ( & he told me I could always tell him anything so I felt free to do so) . Shit went left . He said he didn’t think were compatible blah blah blah ( but saying I was the best thing that happened to him and he wants this and that with me ) then the nigga started coming for me and I was just like trying to fizzle it out but at the same time checking him cuz you’re not bout to come at me crazy . He went to work so he stopped responded . This was three days after Christmas I believe.I sent him a text stating my frustration with our argument and we need to talk in person , he told me to come get my shit because I wrote a vague tweet that was obviously about him but I didn’t mention him or say it was about him. If y’all knew all he said it was warranted in my opinion. I also took his name out my bio because I told him I’m not putting out anything I’m not getting back . He took that as we broke up . I guess . I’m 25 and he’s 32 btw. He has a really hard time communicating and expressing himself to the fullest and I’m completely opposite.So I went to get my things , he gets in my car at like 12am . We’re taking , we’re telling , I’m crying , then silence for a sold hour. He said he had nothing to say to me but continued to sit at this point I’m confused . I’m crying to myself . He gets out my car at almost 4am and tells me to go home and TAKES MY THINGS BACK . Then proceeds to hug me , give me gas money and FaceTime me till I got home . We talked for a few days, he’d even text me when he got home from work at 1am/2am. New Years came and went he completely ignored me. I text him like are we still together? He said “obviously not, I haven’t said I love you or called you babe “ . Clearly it’s not that obvious or I wouldn’t be asking . So on Jan 4th we officially broke up and I picked up my things, he didn’t say anything to me and walked off . I did something I never do. I slept with someone else that same day , I cried about it for two weeks . I felt so gross , I was crying during the sex y’all ! 9 days later my ex hits me up saying , “ you left a tapawear at my house do you want it” . I drove at midnight to go get the stupid tupawear just so I could see him . He sat in my car and we smoked and talked for a couple hours. I had to use the bathroom so I went upstairs, I wasn’t anticipating anything happening so I waited for him to walk me out . We get to my car and I was about to drive off then I asked him for a hug , I swear to god that man ran to my car lol we hugged a good 5 min. He kept staring at me . I told him to just do it I knew he wanted to kiss me , we made out for an hour . Shit got hot lol I had to go cuz at this point it’s 3am . Fast forward to March 2021 , we are “fuck buddies “ as he calls it . We started sleeping together again in mid January around his birthday. We’ve had countless sleep overs , I have a toothbrush, panties , sex toys , body wash , feminine wash and a Loofa at his house . He takes me to dinner, buys me lunch and makes me home made breakfast . We do yoga and go on hikes . We go to to the laundrymat at 1am together , he fills my gas tank up sendsme money . He would kiss my forehead I had to tell him to stop, he still hold my hand and kisses my cheek . I’ll catch him staring at me while Im sleep. But we are “just fucking “ . I had a talk with him about this before , I told him how he offended me and how I don’t like certain shit , he apologized. We talked for two hours and essentially we’re ending things I ended up at his house getting my back blown out . Then slept over that night and the next . So today we were taking having a normal conversation and I asked him a question he responds “ hey Im kinda busy & I don’t wanna get into this right now . Can we talk about this later ?” But hopped on Twitter right after . His famous lines . Which is why we got into our last argument and i ended up at house . I hate that everything is on HIS TERMS , HIS TIME , No compromise . I hate repeating Myself. I’m getting mentally exhausted with this man calling me a fuck buddy but leaving hickies all over my body . Treating me like I am a second thought. But when he wants something he expects me to jump. What do I even call this ? A entanglement of sorts ? A situationship? Lol we weren’t even broken up two weeks and you’re holding my hand and kissing my forehead calling me babe . But I’m tripping for thinking we’re not fuck buddies .When we broke up we both said we need to get our lives together before we get into a relationship, but what’s confusing is isn’t that what this is ? I’m confused as hell right now . Idk what to do . Do I confront him? Do I leave it alone ? My last relationship was with my husband who me I met when I was 17! Been with him and only him till January then I started dating again in May of last year , and I met my fair share of men ... but none of them were like him . Or WHO I thought he was . He was PERFECT. Now he’s comfortable. It’s so much more to it but I’d be writing a book at that point . I need advice from people who’ve been through this . Have more relationship experience. Or just have something to say . In my opinion he doesn’t know what he wants but he definitely doesn’t want me going anywhere. So he doing all he can to keep me around & because I tolerate it so he keeps doing it .Please no negative comments.

Last reply Mar 7, 2021