Hi ladies

Am I a bad failure of a mum for this, today's been a manic day, my 6 month old hasn't had a brilliant day, grizzly teething and has a cold coming, I have had mountains of stress to deal with and I had the coil fitted today and it's uncomfortable. My partner found a medicine syringe down the side of the sofa which was from earlier, I completely forgot about it with everything going on, my daughter left her bag of Lego undone on the sofa and she hasn't folded her clothes up, I again forgot to get her to do this or zip her bag up.

My partner had ago at me about all the above and said do I need to take you for custody.

He said about the syringe,I explained when you have an unsettled baby and it gets knocked off you forget about it. It was an accident and it happens, I always put her medicine syringes,spoons in boiling water. His comment back well it should never happen in the first place not to my daughter

Then he picked up our eldest clothes for school and chucked them on the floor and said why are these down here and why aren't they folded up. I again said I had forgotten to tell her and as for them being downstairs I said she could get dressed down here. Again I'm in the wrong she shouldn't be getting dressed downstairs,she should be I'm her bedroom doing it. Once again failing to stick to routine,he's raising it now and it's happened in front of him a few times otherwise we are upstairs.

Then the Lego why is it you've been downstairs and been near it and haven't done f**k all to shut it or put it away, just left it and I picked up five blocks. Clearly no regards to safety of our children. Again failing to parent.

Your space jumper my mum got you on the poof messy. Again I hadn't gotten to it to sort it. His comment you don't give a e**t unless it's your feelings

I have dealt with the kids on my own whilst he sits on a different room in a crappy mood. I have had to sort the kids food,bottle, getting ready for bed, baby having a grizzle as she was over tired and not well. But no that's not good enough,

I'm a unfit,failure and bad mum for not sorting all those things out. He has said I don't stick to routine. I do what I want when I want and I can't do anything right

He has said about taking me for custody of the kids. Am I really a bad parent? I sat upstairs crying my eyes out and felt sick to my stomach.

Narcissistic/ Domestic Violence