Hey all,

Don't know exactly where to post this bt I need some advice and also need to vent...there isn't anyone I can share this with in my life right now..so I'm feeling super frustrated is an understatement! Hence..seeking virtual help!

My husband and I have been married for 3.5 years now. We have a two year old and another on the way. This marriage of ours was second marriage for both of us...and our wedding and wedding prep wasn't done with as much detail and extravagance because it was our second (stupid cultural notion tht marriage after divorce doesn't need to be celebrated as much as a first wedding!!). I didn't think much of it at first because I thought my In-laws were simple people and that's just how they did weddings. In our culture (Pakistani), there are many elements to a wedding..gold jewelry gifted by groom and family to bride, bridal trousseau from grooms side, etc. I have grown up abroad so I don't quite completely fit in with my In-laws as I've never actually lived in Pakistan.. only visited. I think this does create some gap between us and also my husband and I live abroad and visit his family once a year.

I didn't have any problems..until now. My husband's brother is about to be married soon..and I'm feeling insecure and frustrated and mistreated. I won't be able to attend the wedding because the dates overlap with my due date and I'll be delivering abroad. Firstly they didn't even bother considering changing the date so I could attend as well! Now the thing bothering me is..all the preparations are sooooo extravagant! I feel like no one even put any effort into our wedding and didn't even care! This new girl is getting so much attention and respect! She lives in the same city as them and she basically goes everywhere with them! Like every family outing pic I see..she's there! They are all fawning over her and I'm feeling like I'm soon gunna be seen as the bad daughter-in-law in comparison to her.

I know I'm not perfect bt I have tried to become a part of their family but I'm not fake and I don't force my way into anything and I am reserved by nature. She on the other hand is super fake and over the top...and of course people like that are always considered nicer! I feel like my place in the family is being lost to her and no one really gives a shit about me anymore...!

I'm feeling super down bcause of this.. don't know what I should do...

They are all going out of their way to accommodate her and are going all extravagant for the wedding..when none of this was done for me! they are moving because apparently the brides family doesn't think their current place is nice enough! And this girls family lives in the same city as them! I came from abroad and didn't say a word about the house I was married into!!! And no it was not that great! My mother in law didn't even give me a weddign gift although for some reason she thinks she did :S and for the new bride she gave her gold earrings..and that wasn't even for the real wedding that's about to happen soon! The new girl gets along with my sisters-in-law as well..and both of them don't even bother to msg me anymore..they all basically get along so well cz they are alike and I'm the odd one out! They are all social media crazy and quite vain..always taking selfies, posting on instagram and Snapchat, always obsessed with their appearance to the point that they literally don't wear their glasses outside of the home!! Like even if it's a two minute grocery errand they will put on lenses n shit! My elder sister-in-law even had the audacity to tell me i should wear lenses al the time too! I was like umm no I like my glasses and my husband doesn't mind!

Okay this post is getting too long and I could go on forever! Can someone please tell me how to overcome this?! N I realize I may be being petty but I can't really help it at this point. I'm feeling like shit and it's literally affecting the quality of my days! I see an instagram post of her n family n I instantly go into anger or frustration or depression mode!!!

Please help...😔

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