Do you believe people should only ttc if they are married?

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Yes, I do believe people should be married before they try to have a child.  I believe marriage creates a stable and healthy foundation to start a family.  And I don't think using the excuse of "our money is better spent doing *whatever* instead of getting married" .... Uhm, you can go down and have a courthouse wedding for the cost of a marriage license.

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I think if you are in a long term committed relationship then there is no reason you can't have a child/ren. However I personally wanted to be married before having children and now am married and starting to try for a family.

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Why would any women willing choose to be a single mom? I don't get it.

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I didn't used to think so but in the past  year I've changed my mind going through court for my step daughter.  If a man hasn't committed himself to you then I wouldn't be willing to make a lifetime commitment by adding a child.  I know even if you are married it may not always be forever but it's a much deeper commitment.  What we realized is if it doesn't work out then you only get your child part of the time..... You miss holidays and special events with them.  And it's really unrealistic to think you'll agree on everything 100% of the time for the next 18 years so every time you don't then what happens? Turns into a fight and can even end you up in court.   Jmo but I would not make a conscious decision to plan a child without a marriage commitment

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No. It's not necessary. A child can be happy and healthy with one parent, two parents, without marriage being apart of it.

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I adore my SO and we know eventually we will be married, but our money is better spent for a family than a wedding right now. We act as though we are married, we are just missing the piece of paper saying we are, but that's not stopping us from having a family now. In my honest opion, I think too often the thought of being married can put more stress on a relationship. We aren't in a rush, but we will marry eventually

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I don't think it should be a requirement, but I love the idea of marriage, and I love being married. We don't have kids yet, but are planning for them in the future. I personally wouldn't want to be unmarried and have kids, but to each their own. I feel that if you're not married it makes it easier to not work things out. There is literally nothing keeping you together. You could just walk out the door. At least when you're married you have something more to fight for.

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I have MS, it doesn't affect fertility, but some of the meds could be harmful both to me and a baby.  I found out my MS has gotten worse in the last yr., and my Dr wanted to start me on a new med.  This med could be my saving Grace, and I so want to get on it.  Problem is, if I go on now, and later on decide to get pregnant, the chances of me relapsing are 3 times greater, and the lingering effects could possibly cause miscarriage, still born, and a few other things.  So we have decided that instead of waiting another yr to try for a baby, that we are starting now (and I'm ovulating now)  :)  so then I can go on the med afterwards. Also pregnancy has been shown to kind of put a females MS into remission, which I will gladly take, breastfeeding also has been known to keep it at bay.  That's my thoughts on it.  I'm willing to forgo my complete healthiness for awhile longer to make sure I can have a safe and healthy pregnancy and baby, and full on go for my health after.  (Also, I do have an 8yr old son from a previous relationship, and he has never longed for 1 thing)

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I don't plan on getting married but I feel that should NOT stop me from having a baby that I desperately want and can take care off. I can't stand close minded people that think you need to be married.. It's 2014.

Do you believe people should only ttc if they are married?

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