Where is it?!

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Ladies 😭 I'm 16, a virgin, and I cannot find my vaginal opening. I can see where it starts, but it looks like theres like discharge or skin blocking it, idk, I cant put my finger in all the way. I cant even use tampons 😭 Is it even a hole?! I CANT GET MY FINGER IN💔 I feel like I dont even have a hole. I know I do because I get my period but what the fuck. Help me. 😔 (no infections, either, if thats what you were gonna say.)

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Your hymen

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Get a mirror it's impossible not to have a hole ... (Right ? ) please let us know when you find it bcss I'm freaking out with you

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Omg girl calm down lol I promise you, your vagina didn't close up!

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I had the same problem for YEARS. Ugh it sucks. But finally I got so tired of not using tampons, I took a mirror in my room and just sort of "explored" down there 😂 I know that sounds really weird but it helps! You can look around and try and find the hole, if you don't, then I'd suggest seeing a doctor but I had the exact same problem until I took a mirror and found it!

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UPDATE: Going to my gyno next month for an annual! Maybe he'll help me out with it :) I'll let you know!

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Sometimes it can be hard to see if you're not turned on. I used to also think I didn't have a hole haha. When I just look at it when I'm not aroused, it just looks like a slit

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It's probably further back then where you are looking

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I had a friend who had this same issue. she ended up going to her Gyno, and then getting surgery to get it all fixed. turns out the skin just hasn't split enough on her. hope u figure it all out!! :))

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You could have a microperforate hymen, this is when the hymen is thick and the hole in it is small, period and discharge can come through it but tampons and sex are hard to push through. It's also possible that you could just be really tensed when you're trying to push the tampon/finger in, try to relax or use lube on the tampon applicator which will make it easier to slide in. If you think you have a microperforate hymen you can speak to a doctor about it.

Where is it?!

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