Plus size since children

I need some help here. I feel like total crap about myself since having kids but its been even worse with the 60 lbs i gained w my last pregnancy. (My son is 3months old) I have always had thighs and an ass but now IM 210lbs and 5'3 a big butt and size D boobs and its taking a toll on my self esteem. How can i dress to make myself feel better about myself during the day but especially in the bedroom. I dont like anything tight around my belly or my belly showing. And any tips on losing the weight during the small amount of downtime i may get during the day. Thanks in advanve.