Cheating: is my life falling apart?

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This is hard for me to share but I need advice even if it's mean. I want to hear it all. My SO and I started off very rocky with him lying and cheating. We worked through it and he has made great efforts to change. We weren't serious or even living together when this happened. Tonight he just told me about another time. It was days before we moved in together and he apparently received a blow job from a girl after a rehearsal dinner he attended in the same hotel where we were staying. This happened over a year ago and I am hysterical. I feel disgusted with him and I want to leave. I'm 16 weeks pregnant and I feel like my life is falling apart. Am I being irrational because I've already been the idiot who forgave a cheating liar and I need to rise above and move forward for this baby? Or do I have a huge right to want to leave and feel like this is the last straw?

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Move on. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." Do what's best for you and your baby. Love yourself and ditch the pos.

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Did your boyfriend just tell you the truth? Or was it something you found out? Maybe he is trying to move forward and be a better boyfriend/dad for your baby by coming forward and being honest. 
Cheating is hard. All relationships come with ups and downs- moments of strength and weakness. You have to decide if this is something you both want to work past or if it's something that changes everything. 
It would be hard for me because it was a year ago. How have things been during the last year? Has he been supportive durning your pregnancy? Is he someone you see yourself with for a long time, raising a family with? 
Comments like once a cheater always a cheater don't take in to consideration the circumstances. I think if your relationship and family is something that you both want to continue to build on, there is nothing y'all can't do.

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Being pregnant I think our hormones can get in the way of thinking clearly. I can't tell you what to do because I'm not in your shoes. I would just say to cry it out, be angry or grossed out, everything you're feeling is valid, but take a day or so to let your emotions and hormones calm down and then make your decision. For what's best for you and your baby. And make your decision based off clear thoughts and facts not emotions. I'm sorry this happened to you! I believe people can change and I also know people that really don't want to change and never do. My thoughts are with you!!

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You were there with him at the rehearsal where he cheated?? wTF!! Really! Once a heater always a cheater in my book!  Leave his ass! He didn't learn the first time obviously!

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Just remember no trust no love :/

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Girl, I would remove myself from that situation immediately. You deserve so much better than that and so does your little one! The fact that he would wait until now to tell you about another occasion as well is disgusting.

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I'm so sorry this happened to you. I think this is a sign that he is a true cheater and not just a "I wasn't that into at first and just having fun" kind of cheater. Not to say the first one is acceptable but the latter is definitely worse. I would leave now before your child knows of a time when mommy and daddy were togather. But ultimately the choice is up to you.

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Honestly that's disgusting, my heart hurts for you :( I wouldn't be able to move past that and would have to leave pregnant or not :(

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This is going to require some soul searching, if you feel he's worth the effort and hurt anymore.

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You are absolutely entitled to whatever you are feeling right now. Your trust was betrayed, and personally I don't know that I would ever be able to move past it. If you decide to forgive him for this, I just hope it's because you really feel like the relationship is worth something and you arent just 'working it out' for the baby. People are perfectly capable of being co parents without being together! I'm so sorry you have to go through this- wishing you clarity of mind through this difficult time.