I'm an only child and my parents live across the country. I've been away from home for 10 years and married for 5, but knew when I had a child my mother would have trouble respecting boundaries I set with my husband. We just had our little guy on Friday born at 36 weeks via emergency csection due to me developing severe preeclampsia. We knew I was most likely going to be induced this week (4/1 was the date) so they have reservations to fly out on 3/31. Suddenly this weekend that changed to 3/30 and they're staying til 4/8. Now we had said a long time ago they could visit but we kindly requested they stay in a hotel not our house. Fine - they were mad but they did it. We had a long discussion last month about how the visit should be a few days bc my husband was taking two weeks off and we wanted a lot of bonding time just the three of us and to figure out what works for us on our own. It all blew up yesterday when I learned they were coming a day earlier than planned. My mother had mentioned it this weekend and I had asked to please keep plans the same. She swears she told me they changed them (keep in mind I had just had emergency surgery, was on meds and had a new baby so I really wasn't concentrating on travel plans). I called yesterday to let them know they can of course visit but we request that visits be kept short as we are hardly sleeping and he is getting adjusted to life. That set them off. How dare I put up walls and restrictions and how ungrateful I am after all they do that I don't want their "support and help" - aka take over my household and cook and clean and be in my house for hours on end. I was informed they will not be dictated to when they can fly out and that they have other plans when they are here and didn't plan to live on our doorstep. (My mother flew out last min in Feb for my baby shower - after she had already thrown me one in my home state the month before) even after we had already discussed it wasn't necessary and would be too much as my best friend was throwing it and staying with me for a week. She just bought tickets and informed me she was coming. She  couldn't believe that it caused such issues. I was informed they're heart broken and this has caused what should be a happy time to have horrible memories and I started it bc I had their flight reservations and should have said something earlier (ignoring the fact I asked her not to come a day earlier). Somehow what we had dicussed when I first learned I would be induced turned from a 6 day visit to now a 10 day visit. My husband is livid and this whole time is turning into a disaster in which I am in tears instead of enjoying my precious little boy. Just had to rant and let it out.