Some women are just trying too hard...like feel free, but honestly, how does this affect you as a person? And after 23 years? I don't get it. Can someone explain it? Thoughts?

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Makes sense. Also I dig how she acknowledges it's a thing for her, and not necessarily for anyone else.

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Technically then, men are born "belonging" to their fathers, too (following the logic here). I can understand wanting to retain your maiden name, but to ditch the name you were born with doesn't make a whole lot of sense as a symbol of bucking a patriarchal society. I suppose unless you choose to take on your mother's maiden name?

Good for her? Not for me...

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I like it, and agree with it in some sense. I did not, nor will I ever hold my husbands last name. It's not for me. I don't think I will change my last name just because I got it from my father though. Too much hassle since I've had it my whole life.

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There's like so many other things to worry about in life. This isn't one of them. At least not for me.

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I don't disagree with her. From a business stand point it makes sense to keep one last name. 
For example, I build up a name for myself Alisha West* (it's silly but I'm not using my real one). I work as a lawyer. I build up an amazing reputation and I'm successful. People know Alisha West, and when looking for a lawyer my name is what pops up. 
Now let's say I get married and take on the last name Johnson. I am now Alisha Johnson, and no one knows that. I have to change all my information, I have to print new cards and try to connect again, I'd have to change my website, so when people search for the usual "Alisha West" they won't find her. She won't be what pops up and they won't recognize the new one, and even after all that I will Lose some business because people won't know who I am. I am, not completely 100%, but basically back to square one.

I like my last name, and I don't intend on taking on my partners if we were to marry. At the most I'd go for hyphenated last names so I can use whichever I prefer. It's that lady's business and I think it's fine to want to be a unique person with a name that wasn't handed down repeatedly.

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IMO to actually think about ideas like this is a really good thing. To question what you've been conditioned to do and believe is smart. I like women who think.

At the end of the day, do what you feel is right for you.

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If she wants to change it, who cares? It she thinks it hinders her, I'm not going to stop her.

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I didn't change my last name when I got married, I just hypenate it. I'm proud of my given last name and proud of what my father has done for me... I'm Chinese American-- in the Chinese culture, boys are heavily favored. My parents thought it was bullshit. My dad made sure I had the best education, etc. He didn't care if I ever got married or not either. But more importantly he didn't treat me like I'm a less of a person because I am a woman. This is why I didn't change my last name!

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I totally get where she's coming from. But for me I would love to take my boyfriends last name and wouldn't think twice about it.

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I totally get it as far as taking your husband's name.

I took my husband's name when I got married. But now I consider it mine and don't ever intend to change it. If he divorced me tomorrow, I'm keeping this name.

But, while I can sort of understand where she's coming from with the maiden name, that is a non issue for me as I never had my father's name. But all kids generally take on their parent's last name and it's usually up to mom when it comes to which name they take.

Some women are just trying too hard...like feel free, but honestly, how does this affect you as a person? And after 23 years? I don't get it. Can someone explain it? Thoughts?

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