Hard times feeling bad for hubby. Am I wrong?
My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for 2 months. Right after we got together he was fired from his job and though he has a sociology degree he had a very hard time getting a job. He was finally given a bartending job after being unemployed for more than a year. A year after this job was given to him, literally given (no application was filled out etc) he was given the opportunity to bartend at another restaurant. He took that job, now he has worked there 2 years and we just found out we are expecting twins. His job does not give benefits etc( thank god I have benefits for myself and the babies)..and he's always complaining about it but does nothing to change it. My father is the VP at a large company and he tried helping him but the position was looking for more experience and he was told today that he didn't get it. Tonight he called me to tell me how he feels it's unfair and he has to serve people who work in positions like he wants but will never get. I'm having a really hard time feeling bad for him because it seems like he just wants these great jobs handed to him. He hasn't applied anywhere, and he says he feels sad and mad and I have a very hard time feeling for someone who doesn't help themselves. When I tell him, he should not let one position get him down he tells me he wants a wife and not a coach. I get it, but if you don't help yourself how can you expect others to help you? If you aren't applying why do you think you will be just out in to a $100,000 position a year. I'm now a stay at home mom due to a heart issue, and I am actually labeled permanently disabled. Before I was put on disability I worked for a great company that even gave him health benefits, and was like one of the companies he says he "hates." To me it feels like he wants all this handed to him and as a person who has worked hard in a position like that I have a very hard time being sympathetic toward someone who doesn't even try...I don't know what to do anymore. Advice please!!!
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