Am I selfish??!!

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Don't know if this is considered a controversy but:
So we found out about 3 months ago our beautiful little boy has autism. In now way had that affected the way we love him but it has changed our "plans" for the future. He is very bright and I guess you would say "low" on the spectrum. After finding out our diagnosis we decided to wait on having another child until we thought it would be a better time and after he received early intervention. 
Well this morning after not getting my period I took a left over test and BAM! Clear as day positive pregancy test. Is feeling excited and at the same time fearful selfish? And it is selfish for us having this other baby while trying to make sure our first born has all the attention(for therapy) and it could affective him or maybe not.
I guess maybe hearing from other moms in my situation might help knowing it will be ok and it is do able.

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I am a special education teacher and work with students on the spectrum, most of them high functioning like you have described your son. I love seeing my students interact with their siblings. Siblings are often the rare people that children with autism are able to open up to and be themselves with. It is a beautiful thing.

You have done the best thing for your son by enrolling him in early intervention. Through careful social training he will learn to positively interact with others around him. A younger sibling will be great practice for him.  Blessings to you and your family throughout your pregnancy and after.

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I don't see how you would be considered selfish....just seems like genuine concern

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My teacher in highschool had a son with autism and at 2 years old had a nother little boy.. Its incredible but they really supported each other... When the son.with autism.had therapy the baby brother made it seem like games because he would want to "play" too.. I helped them with babysitting and the son with autism afternoon programs... And after the baby was here and was able to play with the other son he flourished... I dont think its selfish at all.. Definately doable... He was fsirly low functioning but with his programs he was able to transition into a mainstream classroom... You can do this mama

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Not selfish at all.

Also it's proven children with autism progress better when they have siblings so it's probably the best thing for him x

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Not selfish at all. You sound like a wonderful mommy. Your son and new addition are lucky to have you!

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My autistic son is 10 whether he has just started on this journey or is already been walking it for years there is NO such thing as a good time to bring in another child.  Get in with a good therapist and let them help guide you in this new leg of the journey and DO NOT feel selfish just because you have a child with autism does not mean you as a person stop existing, you as a wife, you as a mom and more.

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With you even having to ask if it's selfish, it shows it's not. It's clear you love your son, despite his mental disability. I volunteered years at a therapeutic riding barn for individuals with mental disabilities. They love to interact with other children. It's not selfish nor wrong of you!

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My cousin has twin boys one with autism and IBI therapy changed his life. He went from not talking to being more out going then his brother. His brother always really helped by modeling behaviors. I think with early intervention people won't even know he has autism.

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In no way do I think that's selfish, it seems your son is the concern.

Am I selfish??!!

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