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This is a bit odd for me to admit but my husband has a slight case of sexsomnia. When I say "slight" I mean that he does have some memory of what occurred during the night but not how it happened.
It will be completely random. He'll change positions while sleeping (I know he's asleep bc of the snoring) and the next thing I know his hands are in my pants or he's tugging on them to get them off. I also know he's still asleep bc it's just...different. Like he's fumbling around or taking several breaks that last a little too long. Usually about halfway through the act he becomes lucid enough to keep going and finish. But each time he has no recollection of how it happened so I have to fill in the blanks.
I can tell it kind of bothers him. It would upset me too if I were doing things in my sleep and have no memory of it. He's worried what would happen if I ever tell him no. He doesn't know what his mind will tell him to do if I don't let him have sex with me since that's what it wants him to do. I read that it's similar to sleepwalking and I've heard it's not good to wake someone in a harsh way.
The occurrences haven't been as frequent as they were when he was in his early 20's (he's 27) but it happened twice this week which is odd.
Does anyone have any experience with this or know how I should handle it?