Am I looking to deep into this??

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So my SO & I have been together for about 2 years. We haven't vocally made it official but are pretty official. We've never called each other BF/GF but we acknowledge it. I don't know, it's weird. Anytime anybody asked us were we together I politely said "No we're just friends." Even though we are much more than friends. Well today this older lady told me she assumed we were together and said to him "you two are such an adorable couple." He scrunched up his face and said "We're not a couple. We're just best friends". I know we've kind of played the role that we aren't together but that really hurt my feelings. I want to address it but I feel I'm gonna get the casual "we always say we are friends" only it didn't feel that way. Am I being too dramatic ?? I know I'm hormonal right now so I want to make sure I'm not being emotional for a stupid reason.

Just want to be clear that I'm the one that decided to take things slow. We have talked about being in a relationship and act as though we are. We've discussed marriage, living together and having kids. I just wasn't big on titles because when we started talking I had came out of a bad situation. We have since moved past that. Im also extremely private so I always told people we were friends. He said he would follow my lead and I've been anxious about going to the next level. I want to do so because I trust him and moved past my issues, but the way he said we are friends bothered me and now I'm a little apprehensive. && I'm not pregnant. I'm hormonal because of PMS

UPDATE : I talked to him about it. The lady didn't say anything like that to him. She just told him she wanted to be nosy and ask what's going on between us. He didn't know her like that so he just said "she's cool we are friends." He confronted her about it and she apologized saying she wasn't trying to cause a fuss. She was just talking. I also told him I wanted to be official and he told me Sure. After all of this time he already assumed that we were and he just tells ppl that we are friends because of me. I told him I understood. Things are good.  :) thanx everybody for your advice.

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Uhhh he's not your SO then. Sounds like its just a fuck buddy relationship. My husband called me his girlfriend after the first time we had sex. I'm sorry if you weren't aware of this but you are not in a relationship. We got engaged a week after our 2yr anniversary.

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Why would you waste two years on a guy that won't call you his girlfriend? Sounds like time to move on to me.

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Honestly sounds like you guys are friends who have sex. If my boyfriend told anyone oh no where just friends I would be done with him especially when we have a child and another one on way.

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I don't fuck my best friends, or discuss marriage or kids with them. You both sound immature for not wanting to have a "title" and telling people that you're friends. If you've changed your mind about that then you need to talk to him and see if you're on the same page. Don't expect him to read your mind. If he still wants to just be fuck buddies then move on!

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Well, you started the whole thing of not being labeled as BF/GF.  You've always told people you know that you are just friends so maybe he really is only following your lead because he doesn't want to scare you away, especially since you have not vocalized that you want to be more than friends. If you want to be more than quit playing childish games and tell him that you want to make it official.  Simple as that.

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Girl this is NOT a relationship. This is at most a fwb deal. If you guys never stated that you are in a committed relationship then fact is, you aren't. If he acted that way then he definitely does not feel like you two are together and I wouldn't be surprised if you aren't his only fwb.

If you are pregnant with his child you better get this sorted out ASAP, because what you have right now is a hot mess and I would never want to bring a child into that.

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Someone I dated for 3 years once said he hated labels. I was so excited just to have him I never realized I was selling myself short. In all that time we never said "I love you" and the final blow came when I confessed I wanted us go be closer emotionally and he said he didn't. He was fine being exclusive but he didnt want to feel truly attached emotionally. Had to leave him after that.

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Yeah... That doesn't sound right... The fact that you both say friends you've convinced him that friends is what you two are.. Tuff situation to get out of

Am I looking to deep into this??

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