Very upset and angry

I'm Christian my husband is Catholic. I don't agree with infant baptism and go to my church faithfully he doesn't go to his church unless it's a holiday or special occasion. We agreed to raise our child neutral. I recently found out that his parents and him have scheduled a baptism date for my child. I'm so upset that they have gone behind my back and have discussed our child's baptism behind my back I'm the mother it's beyond disrespectful. And for my husband to take his parents side and go plan things with them is beyond wrong. I said that she's not being baptized and especially when it's scheduled behind my back. Idk what to do but I'm so upset and angry what would you advise?