I'm not the best sex he's had. How do I deal with that?

Question

My boyfriend is overly honest sometimes and after I told him he was the best sex I'd had I told him I wanted to be the best sex he's had. Well after a drunk night of him and me telling various sex stories of us with others, he told me this "best sex" scenario and it sounded magical. It was with some girl he loved and who loved him on a balcony overlooking some city. Magical as hell. But I feel like I'm not good enough. Like I can never outdo magical sex like that. We love each other, and he thinks all is well in the world, but this shit weighs on me day after day. How do I cope with not being his best partner?

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Why does it matter? He loves you, and sex isn't the only thing in a relationship. So what he had some magical moment with someone else? Things obviously didn't work with her for a reason. He's with you for a reason. And whose to say you two won't have an even more magical moment like that together?

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In my experience there are a variety of "best" sex experiences. There's the super sweet making love kind- the oh my god outer body experience kind- the exciting we could get caught any second kind- the I'm finally with this person I've been wanting forever kind- the I don't even know this person but this feels so right I can't believe I'm doing this kind- and on and on and on. So don't get too hung up on the word 'best' or try to compete with any other magical sexual experience he had.

Those kinds of experiences just happen, without too much thought, that's why they feel like magic. As hard as it may be you have to try not to overthink it- If you are worrying about this, you won't be able to be alive and spontaneous in that moment when it could be your Best Sex ever for you and him both. Focus on your connection with him instead and building attraction. Insecurity and jealousy are the will result in the opposite. Just be your rad self and know that the best is yet to come. :)

PS I think it's kindof shitty that he told you that anyway. This is why you don't tell your current partner details about past experiences. My rule is share nothing that will create a visual for your partner. No one wants to see the person they love with someone else- even if it's only in their head.

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You are such a good girlfriend. I'm so petty if my boyfriend ever said that id be like "OKAY GO FUCK HER THEN BYE! I know guys that's kill to fuck me!!" I think I'm too much of a goddess.

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My boyfriend is 5 years older than me and has way more experience too. In the beginning I was real vanilla, lights off under the covers missionary position only. We've been together for almost 3 years and by far he's the best sex I've ever had and I know he's very satisfied with how much my sex game has changed 😉 BIG TIP* watch porn! Sounds weird I know! But I've learned how to do so much from it. Watch it together! That's even more fun! Watch alot of oral sex, and suck his dick so good he'll grab your face and tell you that you're amazing. Trust me I tell all of my girlfriends this and it's helped them as well lol 😜🍆

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You don't have to outdo this magical sex scenario,  but if you wanna wow him do something he'd never expect and plan out an eventful night like a romantic date followed by a pleasing and romantic time.

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As long as sex is good why is this a problem? Not everyone can be a porn star in bed haha really tho who cares, it's his past! Don't talk about his past sex life if your going to dwell on it 😉

I'm not the best sex he's had. How do I deal with that?

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