Last week it was determined that my little one is incompatible with life. My babies little heart doesn't work and it has severe chromosomal problems and it's unlikely I will carry to term, if I did baby would die soon after.

We have a d&c scheduled for Thursday and Friday. I will be losing my first baby and I don't know how to prepare myself....

I will be exactly 17 weeks when the procedure takes place and I will not be able to hold my little one. I don't know if it's a boy or a girl, I don't know of knowing will make it easier or harder. Some problems were detected at 12 weeks and as such I have never even heard my baby's heart beat, I haven't felt baby move.

Any advice? Just looking for someone who has been here who can offer some wisdom.