A very good friend of my was a nurse for over 20 years. She says to me, "do you want to know the secret to having a baby?" Of course, I was like hell yeah, tell me. She says, "don't try." She then goes on to tell me she had so many couples come in that had been trying for years and years and as soon as they tried not trying, they got pregnant. I gave it some thought, and decided that's what I want to do. :) good luck to you all.