My husband is freaking gross * tmi* long vent

I can't stand him anymore. I can't talk to him because he's so sensitiv or he gets defensive. I know I have my issues which I am getting help with. But I can't stand him any more. I'm the only who cleans. If he make a pizza or any meal for himself it will sit till I can get to it. I've found empty gallon tea jugs under my bed. He'll leave plates/dishes in out room. He save everything. He is a hoarder. (Saves everything ) if I go through the girls stuff for donation he puts a least half back! I bought book cases last year that are already packed and look like shit. And ever thing is "just for he time being" he has a broken dresser. Him and my daught have been living out of laundry baskets because of broken dressers. parents are giving us a new one for him. But he needs to go through his clothes because nothing fits him all the xl stuff we got 3 years when we were wedding planning doesn't fit. He's a 3x. I'm not a superficial person. I've gain weight too. But now I have held issues and it need to come off. He refuses to care about him self. What pissed me off the I gave him the fucking tools he needed even counted the calories of every meal I made. The only thing he had to was portions. He must have gain 30-50 lbs past 2 years. We are going to get amusement park tickets and I don't want to go because we won't be able to go on any ride together. Becuase he couldn't last year and he's only bigger this year. Idk how he does it. He gets sick of his hair and shaves it off. Which i hate and think its ugly, but nice about becuase he wants to do it. You know who has to clean it up me. He never helps clean the bath rooms which is his mess! He shit get caked around the toilets just one time. He claims he never has time. How about 5 minutes when you come home form work. It fucking filthy around here. I'm no longer sexual attracted to him. Yeah he spoils me and my girls buys us anything we want. Took me and my daughter. He is a wonderful provider. I haven't had to work. Cars are paid off. Never late on bills. He really has giving us everything. On weekends he lays in bed till we get going. Won't wake up early to do something around the place. It's video games all night long which I don't mind because I'm a sleep so are girls. I sware this place is starting to get an odor. I bought so many extra clean supplies. I thought I wasn't in the mood any more, I'm learning it's him.