We have enough been ttc for 9 months and my Dr said she would only do blood work at this stage to see if I had ever a hormone imbalance. So I was discussing it with my husband and he got all mad saying that I'm making a big deal out of it. Also the oh so glorious "it will happen when it happens" statement every women ttc just fucking loves hearing. He then proceeded to tell me that he will not do fertility testing to find out why it's not happening because "his child" (excuse me this would be my fucking child too) would not be a planned or forced creation. I'm sorry but this is a big red flag for me and may possibly be a deal breaker. Am I being irrational?