I'm 21 yrs old the guy I WAS seeing is 42 he looked really good for his age and he had his life together basically the whole package. We met at a bar and imminently hit it off next thing I know he's taking me shopping taking me to fancy restaurants just spoiling me we'd hang out about 3 times a week but he'd never invite me over we'd either be at my house or out somewhere I really never thought anything about it I know he has a 11 yr old daughter so I wasn't really sure what her living situation was and who had her on what days so I kind of just pushed it off to that's the reason why. Anyways so we went out this weekend and I didn't want to go back to my house my roommate was having a party and I really just wanted to sleep so I asked if we could stay at his place tonight he was kinda hesitant but then said yes while we were driving home (separate cars) he pulled over to a hotel which I thought was super weird he wanted to just stay the night there because he said his house was a 40 minute drive and he was too intoxicated to drive I offered to drive him home since I was fine and didn't really drink but he refused I just let it go we stayed there and had sex (this was 4 months in I forgot to mention) anyways the next day I was leaving and I walked out to my car I forgot my keys and walked back into the room and noticed he was in the shower, like wouldn't you just go home and shower? So I started putting everything together and he always showers before leaving my house he gets calls through out the night just little things like that I never noticed he also won't add me on social media I know he has a Facebook but it's on private and when I brought up him adding me he kind of brushed it off like he never gets on. So anyways I know he's probably married at this point so I started doing my research and saw he had his mom listed as his family member on Facebook I clicked on her page and her page wasn't on private and I saw her just recently post a photo of him his wife and child and the caption was "my son and his beautiful family" and the wife was tagged in the photo as well and it just confirmed everything I haven't spoke to him since because I'd never knowingly be with a man whos married. I feel horrible I was with a married man and I'm tempted to contact the wife not as a revenge thing but it's more about me wanting to know if I was in her position. Anyways my question to you guys is should I get in touch with the wife or just let it be.. And if I do contact her how should I even say it?