Ok, so this is going to take a while.

So I had a confirmed miscarriage the day before my birthday.

My boyfriend is still taking good care of me, (a week after) but he wasn't mourning or dealing with the loss.

So on my birthday at 10 pm at night we call his brother to see if we can come over so my boyfriend can decompress and relax and talk to his brother about how he is feeling.

***His brother says, yeah come over.***

We get there and the tv is blaring, his SIL is trying to sleep in the living room and his nephew is asleep in his rocker.

We get there sit down, small talk when SIL jumps out of the chair, screaming about how she has to work at 4 am and she went to her bedroom to go to sleep.

We shrug it off and small talk for about 5 minutes later and she comes out of the bedroom, sees that we are still there, and starts screaming, slamming doors, scaring her 5 month old so bad he choked on his bottle, and at that point I've had it. I say, "I'm not dealing with this, we need to go."

I hand the baby to his dad and we leave.

***Earlier that day (my birthday) we go to my mothers, (psychotic lady,) she gives us 41 dollars for my birthday and takes me to cash my check from my grandmother. On the way down there she freaks out about my boyfriend coming with me to my parents because it should only be a family event. She pulls off on the side of the road, screams and slams her door, blared the horn all that jazz.***

****So later that night I post on Facebook about adults throwing temper tantrums, if you go through and read it, it's my mother to the "T". It's about growing up with someone and how it effects your life as an adult****

Boyfriends SIL freaks out thinking it's about her, saying she's not sorry, how there's a rule that people shouldn't come over after 9, (we'd never been told that before, neither had the rest of his family,) how we weren't being respectful to her.

So I message her that if she is looking for a fight, we can fight. She goes off on a tangent saying the same things as before, how my boyfriend is lazy, and how she works more so she deserves more respect, (my boyfriend works twice as much as she does, but she's mad he still gets 10 hours of sleep). And her last message how she says, ***"You are just using your miscarriage as an excuse to come over".***

I'm sorry what?

I say that the post wasn't even about her how if she thinks she's comparable to my schizoaffective bipolar mother, she has a real problem.

I call boyfriends mother in tears about what she said about my miscarriage and she thinks she's suffering from PPD. Frankly, I don't give a fuck what she is suffering from. That is inexcusable to say.

So my boyfriend and I got in a fight because I don't want to be around them. At all. Not one bit and he thinks that's going to break us up because it would involve me not going to his family events if she is there. (If he considers that wench worthy of breaking us up, I don't care if we break up over it. I'm sticking to my guns.)

He and his brother want to lock us in a room and have us fight it out, but if they do that it'll come to blows and I'll probably try to kill her.

Keep in mind that she has had everything handed to her, she is completely spoiled, and everything is about her.

So, if his mother is willing to come with me and I get an apology, I'd be willing to talk to her.

How do I even handle this?

Controversy because some of you may agree with her side.