Breakup
So my boyfriend and I had broken up about a month ago. He's in the army & it's long distance. That's not the problem behind why we broke up though. We had issues with him going out drinking & driving home drunk, or finding a way home & never telling me he arrived home safely ( which resulted in me staying up late & feeling extremely anxious). The problem that officially ended things is that he did this a few times within the same month & his attitude was always the same: you're ridiculous for even thinking this way, you have no reason to be upset with me, you can't trust that I get home safe, you're insecure, etc. instead of apologizing, he'd then it around on me. Then I started feeling very manipulated and actually broke up with him. So I completely cut all contact with him & on occasion he would email me, which I felt meant he might want to work on things, but in the emails he'd say things like I'll always care & love you, even though I know right now we're not meant for each other. We talked about marriage before, and things were really serious. It's crazy to think that everything could change so quickly. The thing is that this weekend he is home & before he actually got here he decided he wanted to get coffee and at least talk about our own personal lives. Then when he got here he told me he felt too shaky to meet me & discuss things. And when I didn't answer that email he contacted me again a day later ( stil here ) saying maybe we could talk on the phone or Skype next week (when he'd be gone). And I kinda just said "the whole point of talking in person was bc I refuse to talk to you over the phone" I feel it's so much better to talk in person. So he's still home and will be going away for a few months when he goes back to his base tomorrow afternoon. Should I beg to see him before he leaves or continue to just leave it alone ? Do you think I should be done putting in effort ? For someone so manipulative? What do I do? Also if anyone has any tips of dealing with a manipulative person, I'd greatly appreciate it.
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