Tired

What do you do when your man wants oral pleasure every time before you have sex?? Yes I know I can say no and i do.it's just irritating.he will literally lay there taking all these deep breaths like that means something.if you're horny and your wife is right beside you,make it happen.what are we waiting on..I shouldn't have to initiate all the time.don't get me wrong,he's a great lover.but he talks about head more than anything..ugh!!