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Omg! I'm not even sure what the hell I'm even feeling right now. My boyfriend and I just broke up after dating for 3 months. My aunt is super strict and won't let me see him during the summer. I went over to my friends house this weekend and told them what I was thinking. Personally, I am just a super wild person. I like to go do crazy things and talk to random people(within reason) and I was just like I want this summer to be awesome. I want to get in trouble, I want to try and do new things, but I feel like he is holding me back a little. I don't want to feel tied down. I was just like well what is the point if we can't even see each other. I don't want to spend my summer twiddling my thumbs because we are dating. I am also feeling under a lot of pressure because he wants to be very serious, he is a hopeless romantic. In his mind, it is plausible for us to date all through high school and get married and I just can't.  I try to be very realistic, and I don't see that happening. 
So today my friends were like if you really feel like this, then just take a break. Of course, I feel the need to just get it over with and today, happens to be our 3 month anniversary. I told him straight up that I think we should take a break, at least through the summer. And he told me that oh we could make it through the summer, we are strong enough. 
I tried my best to explain without being the worst person ever. 
He just said that he understands that I want a break and he still cares about me and doesn't hate me.
Am I terrible? Are my intentions bad? Right now I feel like the most terrible and despicable person ever. Am I? I know that I needed time and space and to relax, but did I handle this correctly??? Please I need to know!!

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Girl you are perfectly okay. You need to enjoy life and if you don't love this guy enough to make it okay for you to miss out on fun then don't let him. You're obviously still in school so you've got a lotttttt of years ahead of you to decide on settling down. It'll break his heart but you've got to do what's best for you, your friends are right. Just be his friend and be understanding but don't let him trap you.

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I don't personally feel like realistic is the right word. You just can't commit and that's fine but you should tell your boyfriend or you're going to break his heart. Let him be with someone who will go his pace and wants to commit. Also talking fr experience getting in trouble and being wild isn't always sugar and rainbows. It's arrested. It's losing friends. It's living with regrets. Just saying.

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No ur not a bad person for doing what u feel is right and will make u happy. If u don't see u guys being together for a while then why be with him? U made a good choice, u don't want a relationship so u don't have one. Don't just stay in it to make him feel better. Personally, me and my bf have gone a year without being able to see eachother and because I felt like loved him and I see I bright future ahead of us we stuck through it and it was worth it for us :)