Picking a Man

I'm in a hard place right now. No good decision won't come without a nasty out come and I need advice... PRONTO!!!! I'm going through a "divorce" and by that I mean I'm waiting for the Marshall to serve me, but at the same time I'm in a LDR, with someone I sort of work for. My marriage started deteriorating when I met my current BF. We were both going through a lot. Him moving back home since his wife had passed away early last year and me going through this rough patch. Needless to say me and my BF... Clicked. It felt like we both were meant to be together. Today, I saw my exhusband and we were talking as if we were friends. Like we both were just starting to get to know one another. We only met up to discuss splitting up finances and selling 3 of the 6 cars we own together. Yes, we're nuts, we are car enthusiasts. Everything seemed fine and civil until the hardest topic came up and that was the baby conversation. As soon as we got married we started trying and nothing. I went through fertility treatments and he really didn't support me much. I went through alone and that's where the fighting stemmed from. My exhusband doesn't want to serve me bc he wants to start on a clean slate. Work on us and move forward but I haven't let go on how he failed me as a husband and let me suffer through fertility on my own. So here's the part I need help with... 
My BF lives in the MW and I on the East coast. We've been together for almost a year, I've flown out there 5 times and it's always amazing when I'm there. The past couple of months we've been talking about me relocating bc he wants me there. I know he cares about me, he understands I have fertility issues and says he'll stand by me and work with me when we have to cross that bridge. He has a son from his late wife. I have yet to meet him. He also has a step daughter that's been treating him like shit and only using him for his money bc he happens to be a dr. She just moved out of his house. Today we spoke about my meet with my ex and I kiddingly said I just wanna move now. He didn't say much. Then as the convo continued I said I want to move within a year. And he said yes come next year. So I said are you sure? Ill feel like I'm invading your space. His response was, we can work as a team. It'll be great. But I'm still working on the sure part. So I blanked out and said wait your not sure of me moving?? And he said well the longer we are together then yes but right now I dk. He hasn't said I love you to me in the year that we've been together. When I bring it up he says I'm getting there. Now I feel like shit bc I care about my BF and I want a future with him but his indecisiveness scared the shit out of me. Do I wait around for my BF? Or should I say fuck it and go back to my husband? Yes the last 3-4 years with my husband was rough. And I have problems letting go but do I just swallow it and stay with him? They both can financially provide for me but I feel like one can emotionally be there for me more. I dk I'm all fucked up now. Men fucking suck😪😪😪
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