How do you tell someone you're dating about it?

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When I was in high school I was date raped. I didn't date anyone for years after that. I just started dating someone and I haven't told him about being raped yet. I know it's something I need to bring up, but I'm not sure how to do it or when is the right time. Thoughts?

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If bring it up if or when you feel comfortable talking to him about it or if it starts to affect your relationship. But he doesn't have a right to know. If you don't want to talk about it or aren't ready to answer any questions he might have then wait till you are.

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I told him when we were having a fight and I called myself a whore and burst into tears and couldn't breath from crying so hard. I balled my eyes out my fiancée helped me a lot and wanted to kick the guys ass who assulted me he wanted to kill him. I cried so hard and for so long like I couldn't breath or open eyes very hard I was so puffy I get puffy and red when I cry. Me telling him made me feel better and he helped me through it. He made sure I was ok even though the assault happened 3 years before we met. He made sure I was ok and we talked about it for hours and we still do. I still cry about it and even now I am even though it happened over 5 years ago in middle school. I'm crying now because no one believed me and told me to stop lying. Telling my fiancée was the hardest and easiest thing I have done. He helped me a lot and still does

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I was raped when I was 16 by my first boyfriend. I also was in therapy almost weekly for depression, anxiety, ptsd and ocd. I decided to tell my husband about being raped and therapy around a month or so after we started dating. He was really supportive and he's really helped me through a lot!! I would wait to see how far you think the relationship will go, and if you're both serious about each other then say it

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Before me and my boyfriend started dating, he had me tell him everything out front like a day after starting to text. we still talk bout it every now and then bc he knows when I'm feeling down or something and he just wants to help

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Just tell him. Me and my husband sat down before we got married but after we been dating for awhile, and I told him about it. He didn't want details and I respected that because I don't feel comfortable giving them

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Talk about it whenever you're comfortable and whenever you think your relationship can handle it. But I think it is important to talk about it eventually; it is a part of who you are and an SO can really help with dealing with these things. Just explain what happened and explain where you are with dealing with it. He should understand; that's what you deserve!