Wanting a baby but How do you know your ready?

Question

I am just curious about how you all decided you were ready to have your first? I'm an anxious person and I tend to stress about thinks that are out of my control. My husband and I have decided we want to try for our first! While I am thrilled I have concerns, he is a student (will graduate with an engineering degree next April) I am a nurse and do quite well but work two jobs. Currently money isn't an issue for us. I have concerns about relying solely on ei for a couple months while he finds work though. I am saving so we can buy our second home as we will be relocating when he finishes. We are both 29 and I'm not sure how much longer I realistically want to wait. We feel ready. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance, did you all have concerns when trying? Or are we rushing things.

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If it had been up to me I would have had kids at 25 (5 years ago).

My husband and I had been talking about kids years before we started TTC. After we were married we started having real conversations and to my surprise I was getting anxious. Will I ever sleep again? This is forever. Will I be patient enough?

Then my husband started getting anxious and for some reason, that was my trigger. I broke down in tears and knew that I was ready because even talking about putting it on hold felt awful.

We talked a while more because I'm a firm believer we had to be on the same page and now we are both so excited to be trying. On top of all of that, we were and still are in a great place, emotionally and financially.

I don't know if that was helpful.

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You sound stable and normal. Everyone has things going on in their life that make them second guess what they really want! You may or may not get pregnant right away. So what if you rely on your income for a few months. If he's not working, boom there is your baby sitter for the times you're at work. When he does get a job, you will work that out as well. Don't stress yourself out. Don't put it off any more, just do it, have fun and I wish you luck!

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Our first son was a surprise. I was in the pill because we weren't (at a point in life) ready for children. But when it happened we were nervous then after the first ultra sound our fear turned to excitement and we just started changing plans and preparing. From what you have said you are much more stable and prepared than we were and things turned out great for us so I bet if you decided to have a baby now you would be just fine. :)

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I think it's all in how you feel if you feel ready and have the basic necessities together then go for it you can never be a hundred percent ready and your fertility goes down significantly in your thirties but you have at least 5-6 good baby making years before it will get harder so do it when your ready :) I'm in the same. Spot as you getting my degree in a couple months but I feel like we are ready!

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I feel like you are never "truely" ready. I think more than anything it just feels like it's right. My husband and I talked about it, we were both working. We had our own house, engaged, had a wedding date set and we started trying. We tried for about three months and found out the day after our wedding we were expecting. Now we're waiting for the arrival of our little princess any day now! 💜

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