Hard time

Anyone have a hard time getting sex from their so? I get so tired of instigating it AND doing most of the work during the deed we have a 10 year age gap and he says he wants to be better but won't take anything for it love my man to pieces but our sex life leaves a bit to be desired. Any tips or suggestions would be highly appreciated (yes I'm going anonymously because women on these boards can be a little snarky :p)