Starting to think maybe I'm not ready... Anyone else have doubts?

Question

I have always liked kids and kids are drawn to me. I have a 6 year old step son as well. Before him, I could see myself with 3 children... But now as time is moving on... I've been trying with my husband for 20 months with 3 failed fertility treatments and the idea of being a mom is becoming less desirable. I just went on a vacation with just my husband and it was so nice. Other peoples children easily get on my nerves and I think... Am I ready to give up sleep, freedom, alone time etc? I'm just not sure anymore... Anyone with me? My husband and I pray for a baby but.. I'm getting cold feet. Could it be bc I'm afraid I can't conceive?

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I'm currently pregnant, and only misbehaved/undisciplined children get on my nerves lol. I sometimes panic at the thought that I'm going to lose sleep, lose freedom, lose alone time with my hubby...but then, I picture the day the baby is born and I get really excited. That's how I know I'm not making a mistake and am ready. I don't think you should give up, but I do think you should "give up".  I think you're feeling that way because you deep down feel defeated and tired of trying. I think you should stop trying and "give up" as in stop tracking, stop thinking about it ALL together. Just have fun in bed without the added stress of getting pregnant, then maybe one day you will. It's worked for a lot of women :) ... I hope this helps

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I feel like that ALL of the time! I think it's perfectly normal to feel this way. It could also be a defense mechanism due to the trying for so long, but don't beat yourself up over feeling this way.

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Omg! I feel the same EXACT way!! This is crazy. We have been trying for almost a year and a half and although I want a baby(I'm 31 already), but it hasn't happened yet, I'm getting cold feet too...I love coming home and being able to stare at the tv or focus just on my SO for the night. Even my cats gets on my nerves occasionally. Lol.

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I have a little girl who will be 6 in a few weeks and I love her to bits wouldn't change her for all the money in the world, but........other peoples children, they drive me bloody mad!! I cannot be dealing with other peoples children!! So I totally get you, but I still cannot wait to have my second baby :) xx

Starting to think maybe I'm not ready... Anyone else have doubts?

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