I miscarried and he masturbated. 😡

First and most importantly I'm very sorry about your miscarriage, I hope you are okay.Second I think you are overreacting masturbation is natural and a very good stress reliever. Give your husband a break if he wants to enjoy his own body every so often. 

I'm sorry for your loss. I wish for you to find peace and comfort in your time of need. And I certainly hope your husband is providing emotional support.With that said,  I don't however understand why you would try to control his autonomy over his own body in that way. It probably feels  immasculating and punishing to him.  I would resent anyone who shamed me or imposed rules for what I do with my own hands in privacy. It's not infidelity. It's natural and I suppose you're free to disagree, but I'd argue it's his right. I guess we can't always understand each other's mindsets though and that's normal..He's probably hurting too and if you make him feel like you find him disgusting during this time for having his own needs you can't understand I sense a large chance it will backfire in you. You may be damaging his self esteem and your relationship.Best of luck and be well.

Wow..so I'll be honest and admit I was the poster of this. I wasn't sure what the feedback would be and was scared of being judge. I appreciate all the feedback..and respectfully agree and disagree with some. In my mind what my partner did was very selfish. I do realize he lost a child aswell and that he may of needed relief but where was my relief? We are supposed to be in this together 100% physically and mentally. He admitted he felt bad the second he did it and promised to wait for me. I do realize I didn't vocalize my wanting him to wait but I just assumed masterbation would be the last thing on his mind. Thank you everyone for your opinions! <3

I don't think you're overreacting. It just seems like a respect thing. You're in pain, you're miserable, he's more obsessed with his own carnal pleasure... I'm a preterm labor risk and sex gives me insanely bad Braxton hicks that literally have me sobbing in pain. We haven't had sex since I was two months. Five months ago. Which sucks because we both love it. But he refuses to masterbate. To him, 'it's not about me. It's about us. And it hurts you when we have sex. I can wait until after the baby is born for your health.' 

Masturbation is totally natural and is not a reflection of you. Don't try to control him in this way because he will just do it anyways, as we all do. You're setting yourself up for disappointment.

I wouldn't be mad that he is doing that. I know how a mc feels but there is nothing he can really do at this point but support you emotionally which he must be because you didn't say he wasn't. I think its a bit crazy to get mad over the fact he needs to relieve himself too. It's a very natural thing just his timing wasn't right

I don't know how these other woman are supportive of what he did. My husband is one of the biggest horn dogs I've ever met, so with that being said, I STILL can't imagine him masturbating while we are losing are child, I'm so so sorry for your loss, I can not even imagine how you're feeling. It's awful your partner made a stupid decision. I think it's really something you guys would have to sit down and talk about. How could that seriously be on his mind at this time!? That should be the last thing on his mind. I completely agree with you.. No way in hell I'd be okay with my husband doing that crap at a time like that.. Makes me furious just thinking about my husband doing that while we're going through that. Like I said, you guys should sit down and talk about it, and grieve over your little one. Again, I'm so sorry this happened to you. 😟

I'm very sorry for your loss. So yes masterbation is normal. No she didn't tell him to wait for two weeks. But they just left the hospital. Found out their baby is gone and she's laying in bed waiting for everything to pass through her body while her partner is pleasuring him self in the bathroom rather than laying beside her and giving her the support she needs. There's where the problem lies. I don't disagree with you at all. I would probably have told my husband to pack a bag and go stay with his dad. I wouldn't want to be near him. It may be how he deals with loss but if I'm alone and in pain and you're just so horny you can't handle it then you can go "deal with with loss in your own way" in a different home. 

First off im sorry for your loss😢 Yes its natural but how would anyone feel if that were them id be upset and hurt if our child was dying and he was in there masturbating thats so horribly upsetting to some people. 😕

I'm sorry for your loss, but you are majorly overreacting.