Just needed to get this off my chest 😡😥
 --- Husband initiated sex tonight (a rare act in this marriage). And maybe 2 minutes in it felt like every stroke he was dragging a turd closer to coming out. TMI sorry. Yes this was vaginal sex, just felt like all the penis pressure was making me borderline going to poop the bed.  So I asked him to stop, explained that I didn't think it was a big deal... Probably gas... But I just needed to run to the bathroom real quick. Â
 --- Turns out it was gas, came out of the bathroom literally 30 seconds later and he's playing around on the laptop.  I stood there for a couple minutes and he said "I'm just trying to log into HBO real quick because it wasn't working earlier."  So I decide to try to get on top and he just sort of laughs at me for trying. So I get off and wait.Â
---Â For 3 minutes while he's trying to log into HBO. Â He FINALLY puts it away and asks if I'm ready to go again. So I start making out with him getting all hot. Â And he complains about not being hard anymore. Â So I made a "well duh" kind of remark about it and next thing you know we're fighting.Â
 --- He's all pissed off because I'm the one who stopped the sex in the first place (FOR GOOD REASON) and I'm not appreciating the fact that he initiated sex at all (seriously he initiates MAYBE 10% of the time)
 --- For reference, the other day I had come out in lingerie for the first time ever in our marriage and he said "hold on let me finish this round on the game I'm playing and then I'll be there." I waited a good 5-7 minutes before he joined me in the bedroom that dayÂ
 ---  so during this fight, I explained to him that while finishing up something real quick (like the game or logging into HBO) isn't that big of a deal on its own, when it's sex on the line it makes me feel secondary, unimportant, and undesirable.  He said I did not want to hear his honest response to that because it would really make me mad. So I told him to keep it to himself and we put our clothes on and went to bed without saying a word.
 --- am I crazy for being upset?? I'm so annoyed that all of our arguments are him arguing facts and me arguing feelings.  And is it so much to ask for your husband to be hot and heavy for you?  I hear of stories of women who feel like their guy wants sex too much and I'm just so insanely jealous. Â
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