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I went through this a year ago. My sister got pregnant with her boyfriend and I had to try so hard to be happy for her. My husband and I had been trying for 5 years and now my sister was having her second child with her second boyfriend! I was hurt and angry. I forced myself to be happy for her because I love her. I ended up doing all kinds of stuff for her baby shower as a kind of therapy to make myself focus on her joy and try not to be bitter. Plus I suffered 2 miscarriages in the 6 months after her daughter was born. It's hard to be happy for others sometimes, especially when they receive a blessing you have prayed for for so long. Now I am 19 weeks pregnant and praying little one will be alright. Time helps you heal but in the mean time you must force yourself to feel the joy for the ones you love.
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I'm 23 yea old have 2 boys 6&7 from a previous relationship (left due to domestic violence) been with my current partner for 4 1/2 years and we really want our own baby, I fell pregnant after 2 1/2 years trying in April and it was ectopic 😠had to have methatrexate so can't even try until August (I should be 16 weeks now) but I've just moved house so boy have there own room and started a new job so now my partner wants to wait before having a baby now :/ sometimes I agree sometimes I don't I'm not sure how I feel about waiting 😠I've struggled to be happy for anyone getting pregnant I hated it got really jealous but now my best friend 16 years has just told me she's 8 weeks pregnant and I put a front on and pretended to be really happy for her but I was really upset and sort of pissed off too and now trying to avoid her cause I don't want to put a downer on her news but just can't be happy for her :(:( why am I so cruel!! How do I stop feeling like this :(
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You have to put yourself in a different state of mind, which is extremely difficult. If she truely is your best friend, you will be happy for her (with her) because she deserves your happiness. I've currently had to do this with 2 of my best friends and hold my friends leg up while she gave birth not more than a month after my miscarriage (would have been my first child). I did it for her not because she was rubbing anything in my face but because she genuinely NEEDED her best friend to be there and be supportive.What your feeling isn't wrong, but trust me, you feel like a better person when you put the needs of your friend before your own. Good luck, baby dust, and I hope you can find a peace in your mind. P.s. I'm not judging. After my friend gave birth I cried for happiness for her and my whole ride home I cried in selfishness for myself. (Tantrum is a more appropriate word actually...)
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I know EXACTLY how you feel. the night my friend gave birth I ugly cried myself to sleep asking God why he gave her all I've ever wanted for myself. and I thought (loudly) why am I so selfish? and feeling selfish made me feel more awful. it's hard! when we were growing up, I had always told her that I wanted to be a stay at home mom and she wanted a career and no kids. well, she got what I wanted and I got what she wanted. my most awful thought to date was, "how dare you take the life I wanted and give me the one you wanted?" in my right state of mind, I know that's completely not how it works. lol. long story short. you aren't alone. and I've felt like you. I just had to put myself in a better state of mind
Ky
I would never let her see or know how I feel but I'm driving my self crazy... Some days I can be fine and others I'm awful... I feel so cruel xxx
Ky
Thank you, I am happy for her and exited I'm her 1st daughters god mother and she calls me aunty she's a star but I don't know how to change my mind set its hard once I leave her or she's not here I get super jealous and sort of angry that I couldn't have what everyone around me seems to be getting
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