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So what do you do when your partner says they changed their mind and decided they would rather wait a few months to try for a baby ? this sucks

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My husband did that when I first joined Glow. He decided to wait a year or so to TTC. I simply let him have his way and told him that I would not be having anymore kids and that our two children were enough. During sex I would always remind him of pulling out as I did not want to get pregnant. Then he would see pregnant women and their husbands all happy and our close friends gave birth and here I was telling him that I am not having anymore and that our children were turning 8 and 5 and we were free from diapers, bottles etc.... A few months later I found this on the counter
He wanted me to start prenatal vitamins because he wants a baby assp! Lol! Reverse psycology anyone? Lol!

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So sorry to here this.  If you don't minds asking...how old are you?  I am 39, so my window is pretty critical, but you might be fine to wait a bit if you are younger.  It is such a difficult process and everyone goes through it their own way.  You never want to pressure anyone into it, but at the same time you are on your own schedule, right?  My husband dragged his feet a bit also, but once he learned that it does take time to get pregnant he decided not to wait.  I say the more knowledge for him the better.  Men have a hard time understanding what it takes.  They can be emotionally removed from the process.  Best of luck!  It will happen.  That baby is waiting to meet you :)

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That really hurts Bc my husband told me the same thing after 6 months of trying. First he said it wasn't the right time. I told him "people don't usually plan for the perfect time on when to have kids" I just wanted to punch him in the face. I was so angry. His main concern is that I would have to stop working and that would make it hard due to our lifestyle. After we had a conversation, I honestly think he is frustrated that it hasn't worked for us yet. Trying is hard. 
I think you should talk to your partner  and ask for his reasons maybe you guys can agree or u might want to punch him in the face too lol jk. The key is communication try to get on the same page.

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This happened to me, my husband thought he wasn't cut out to be a dad yet... Then I reminded him how amazing he is with our puppy, and if he treated our children even half as well as he treated the puppy he would be an amazing dad.

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My husband did the same thing.  I was ready to start trying after our 1st son- he's now 6 years old. My husband wasn't ready. We finally decided to start trying in October of this year. But what do you do? You respect his wishes bc it takes both parties to be willing and ready.  Don't trick or force or make him feel guilty.  Maybe he's scared. Let him have some time to regroup and don't make it into a chore. Good luck!

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Thanks to all you lovely ladies for your kind replys xx