Postpartum Depression?

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Is 13 days PP to soon to start expieriencing PPD? I dealt with severe depression for years before getting pregnant, and am now unsure if this is just the "baby blues," or more serious...
I feel detached from my baby, he doesn't feel like mine, I absolutely hate breastfeeding, I feel so much anger towards myself and my baby, I almost don't even want to look at him anymore...

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I hated breastfeeding too, it was definitely making me depressed. My baby couldn't latch and pumping was terrible and when I stopped I felt so much better. If you hate doing it and it's not working, don't force yourself to do it especially if it's not helping the bond between you and your baby.

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Screw those people that voted "you're a shitty mom" you are absolutely not a shitty mom. Don't let anyone ever tell you so. Hang in there. X

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I was diagnosed with ppd at my 2 week check up. They didn't even consider baby blues cause I was on a lot of depression, anxiety meds before pregnancy and I knew I would need them again so I was put back on ASAP.
My doc told me my mental health is important to take care of, especially during & after pregnancy. Sometimes being the best mom isnt doing what some label as "right" (I'm sure you know what I mean by this) you become your own worst enemy when it doesn't go how you imagined & it's adding stress to yourself making you feel worse. There is no "right" way of doing things for your baby. As long as they are fed, well taken care of with a roof over their head, your already ahead in the game.

To be the best mom I can be I needed my meds. You can't just get over it if the voice inside your head tells you your doing everything wrong, it's not just about having crying episodes.

I never bonded with either of my kids during my pregnancies. When they were born I was detached. I took care of them but the bond wasn't immediate. With my son, he was 6 weeks early and spent 3 days in NICU. I didn't see or touch him for 2 days, it took maybe up to 3 months for that love I felt for him to burst through me. I was and still am fiercely protective of him. With my daughter I spent my entire pregnancy worried I wasn't going to love her because of the anger I felt towards her dad. With her I didn't feel that love for almost a month. The bond hit me like a ton of bricks. Btw, the only feature she got from her dad was his long eyelashes.

I didn't get treated for ppd with my son which might be why it took so long to bond. With my daughter I got treated a month after she was born.

So don't put yourself down because what your going thru doesn't match what someone you know went thru with their baby. Do what's best for you and be YOUR version of what doing things "right" is.

All our journeys are different. Keep pushing through it. It gets better!

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Please do not listen to whatever asshole said you are a shitty mom. People like that should not be in the PPD board.

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It's not too soon, I was hit hard with postpartum depression a couple weeks after I had my little guy. Seeing someone and getting help is so important, as is having a support system. You are not alone in this, and you are an incredible mother.

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I would say PPD... I have struggled with depression and anxiety for years. When my almost 9 year old was a few months old I ended up committed due to PPD/BPD... With my 4 year old I was medicated immediately following delivery... With this one, (born June 11, 2016), I have had some really rough days where I just cry and cry... I have other days where I feel like I should just disappear cuz I feel like I'm a bad mom. My baby doesn't cry much and is a really good baby, but I'm just tired and overwhelmed... My boyfriend friend has been great with the new baby, his baby, and has been helpful with the older two even though they aren't his.

I tried breastfeeding with the older two, but it was the most miserable experience for all involved which is why I chose to formula feed this time. It is helpful for night time feedings, but I'm still struggling and its normal...

Just try to take time for you. It is important for you to be "healthy" so you can take care of your little one. And remember that you aren't alone in feeling this way.

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The baby blues can last for a few weeks, and sounds a lot like you're describing. Give it another week or two and see how you're feeling. If you're concerned about you or your baby's safety, however, seek help immediately.

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