So whenever my recent ex and I really got into in it's like a switch would flip, so normally he was a super nice guy not really grabby, pretty playful. Well when I got him all riled up it would completely flip, he would get super rough like full on smack me, not even like playful it was like a parent used to spank their child when they did something really bad. He would also call me his dirty little slut and it honestly freaked me out, there were also times that he would choke me and it honestly hurt but I knew that he was about ready to strip means take me so I never really told him about it. One of the reasons that we split up