What should I do?

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The father of my baby and I aren't together. Baby is due August 8th so I have to make a choice on what last name I want to give him but I don't know which one. I would like to give my baby his dad's last name but I've heard that when you do that you can't leave the country without the fathers permission and this guy is such an asshole he would probably not give me permission to take the baby out in the future for vacation. Is this true? Should I get a lawyer? Also he hasn't.  given the baby or me anything this whole time so he doesn't even really deserve it anyways but I'm more concerned about the legal part of this what problems will this cause me. Does anybody know? Any opinions? 
Edit: it is dumb of me to even consider it but idk I guess like always I was just concerned with his feelings. I wanted to think maybe he'll come around and change but now I see he doesn't even deserve that priveledge. It'll just cause me problems

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If he's that big of an asshole why would you even consider giving the baby his last name? Give it yours and if he comes around and acts like a father, then you can always change it.

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Unless there is a custody arrangement in place, you could do and take baby wherever you wanted. Only if you have a custody agreement and your vacation time would infringe upon his visitation would you need his permission. And you would need his permission if you ever moved out of state. 
Regardless of that, I would give baby your last name. If he wants to have visitation and shared custody he can petition the courts for it. He may have helped create your baby but you are the one that is going to be taking care of it.

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If it was me... I'd give baby your last name. It's easier when they are in school if your last names match, and if the father hasn't shown any real interest in baby at all then why should he get to pass on his family name? 
If he's not on the birth certificate he can't do much until he gets a DNA test to prove it's his and then he can go from there, I believe anyway. That may change from state to state

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My honest opinion. Put your last name. If he hasn't helped why even bother with it. Yes you could tell him when baby is born and then you'll see if he wants to be present and sign the bc.  I'm going through custody battle with my youngest n her so called dad thinks that now that he has his own family, thinks he can take her away from me. Just because I moved in. It's a long story. But he fights over every little idiotic thing you can think of. He wasn't on child support he could have seen her anytime he wanted but he chose a different route. Anyways I knew I shouldn't have put his last name n regret it. It's going to be a year going through court. My daughter is 5 n has always lived with me.

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Unless you have court order for sole custody, Yes you will need permission from him to take the baby out of the country.  If he's such a jerk & not really involved why would you want to give the baby his last name? You might want to think about this so you don't regret giving the baby his last name. It will be harder to change later

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Check the specific laws in your state, I think they are different all over.  Maybe just meet w a lawyer 1 time to have them give you all the details.

But then, use your last name anyway, mama!  I mean of course it is up to you but at this point he's not around so why bother.

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