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Question

When you get to your 9-13 weeks and you do genetic testing, 
Yes it gives you an ease of mind to know your baby is healthy, and what the sex is.. But 
What if it's not? 
Is this something you can easily discuss with your SO? 
For me it has been tough. Making the decision is such a hard convo to swallow because you love your baby so much already.  
How did you mamas deal with this?

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I do not plan on doing the testing. The reason I can see the testing being a good idea is so you're prepared for the future. Down syndrome and such doesn't run in my family. Also my OB told me the test is $1700 and not covered by most insurance providers. But I believe one can negotiate price. I still won't be doing it. I'd rather be happy during my pregnancy than fretful. I'm 10 weeks today (06/28/16) and have already worried enough about miscarriage. This is my first baby and we are happy. I'd rather live with rose colored glasses for now. I think people should do whatever feels right to them. Best wishes!

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All relationships are different. And some people can talk about everything but some of them keep a lot of it inside. From my experience I'm becoming crazy if i cannot discuss something with my SO. We don't have any hidden or "not to touch" themes. In my previous marriage it wasn't so and that's why I end it up.
Miscarriage or some abnormalities is a big problem. And if you usually don't discuss any problems it might become a huge examination of your relationships. Because it's really hard to go through it by yourself.
But it's better to realise it now then after delivering kid with some disabilities. You might prepear for that by knowing it from the test. But you have to decide. No one can tell you what to do.

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We don't do the testing...mostly because it would not make a difference for me either way, I would never end the pregnancy. Plus we don't find out the gender, so that's not a big deal either. It is definitely a hard conversation to have... I would think it would have been something you and your SO have discussed beforehand, though. Just to make sure you both see eye-to-eye on what you would do. My husband and I had those types of conversations before we even got married just to make sure we were all on the same page

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Luckily my husband and I see eye to eye on pregnancy. If it's meant to be then it will be born and if something is wrong then we will deal with it as it comes, no termination. But I can see if you and your SO have a difference of opinions about that stuff. Nobody is right or wrong but can still cause a ton of conflict with differing views.

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