At Christmas time, my exhusband had no money. He had just moved back from another state (we all move back, but my exhusband waited till two months after me and the kids did), and hadn't found a job yet. So when Christmas rolled around, me and my husband offered to let my exhusband put his name with ours on the gifts. It was a big deal to him since otherwise he didn't want to see the kids at Christmas time, because "I don't have money for gifts".....the kids wouldn't have cared, they just wanted to see their dad, who had been home for almost six weeks and had only seen them once. It didn't matter to us, so we put his name on some, our name on some, and all of our names on the big things (the Xbox one, the basket of MAC makeup, etc). 

So now, my youngest son (12) birthday just rolled around. In the past six months, my exhusband has been in and out. Has seen the kids for a couple hours on the weekends here and there. He doesn't pay any support for the kids even though he makes about 75K/year. 

My husband and I make decent money as well, but we aren't rich. We got my son a bike, and a few odds and ends. My ex got him a PS4. Then made comments about how we couldn't get him anything big because we want to save all our money for the baby. He said it in such a way that it made it sound as if we are short changing my son. 

It just pisses me off. I guess because partially it is true. We had to buy a crib and all the necessary things for a baby. But we didn't ignore my sons birthday. And at Christmas, instead of pointing out that my ex had the money to get his girlfriend gifts, we just added him to the tags. Am I being petty for feeling like he is trying to one up us and buy my sons affection?