I don't understand

I just don't understand. If someone is obviously upset how can someone just shrug it off and ignore it because they don't want to deal with it? If someone says "I'm about to cry" what's the correct response? Surely it's not "If you cry I'm hanging up." And when I say "Fine I'll just shelter all my emotions from you " are you suppose to say "Good luck with that"? When I text you giving OBVIOUS hints in my text language that I'm upset, are you supposed to ignore it? Or do you really have no clue. Maybe you just think I'm tired. When I say I'm going to cry tomorrow because I'm going to miss my deployed dad is the right response, "Just don't cry"? Maybe I got lost on the road of sympathy and caring because those aren't the responses I thought Sufficed. Then I hang up. Cutting my responses short, hoping you'll ask me if I'm okay or what's wrong but that's not what I get. I get oblivious silence and conversing. But you always talked about how you see through my walls and know me so well. So I assume you know I'm upset and you just "don't want to deal with it." Maybe I'm moody? Making a big deal out of nothing. Maybe you were joking. Because who would walk away from the person they love because "who wants to deal with someone who's crying?" Me saying "Fine I'll lay with the dog", hoping you'll object, was met with an okay or something along those lines. You brought up how instead you'll all hug me like other people would as a what...joke? I smelt sarcasm. Am I not supposed to want to be comforted? I guess next time when you ask what's wrong, I'll be petty and say "Sorry I'll just lay with the dog. Shelter all my emotions away, remember?" Hard to stay mad at you when I love you so much. But even a "Okay baby girl" and "goodnight wifey 😚💍" couldn't bring that usual smile to my face. I'm upset. More upset that I don't know whether I have a reason to be or not. All of this in the span of 26 minutes. 60% my mouth rambling about my efforts to see you, 20% silence 10% me asking you to repeat things and 10% your responses. I miss you. I want to message you saying "I lied I didn't turn in, I'm upset and sad and I want some comforting." But I'm afraid I'll get a "I don't want to deal with it." "Good luck with that." For once I don't think I can turn to you. For the thousandth time in my life I think I'm overreacting. I tell myself to sleep on it, but I don't feel there will be much sleeping. Distracting myself from messaging you. I just don't understand.