Is suffering a choice?

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Im asking because i have complex PTSD and i feel i don't really get a say in how my trauma affects me sometimes. I cant control it all the time, i don't chose to suffer and i cant stop suffering when i am.

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It depends on the situation. Some people let themselves get worked up, some constantly look at the bad side, some stay in the same situation expecting it to change when it won't etc.

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Some people do choose to suffer, be it because that type of pain is the only way they feel anything or because they want attention ("attention pains").

Regardless there is plenty of situations where the individual isn't choosing to suffer. Life is often unfair and unpredictable, so it's to think everyone chooses suffering is completely asinine.

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As humans, we are biologically programmed to change and adapt. Some changes take longer than others and more effort is required, however everything is changeable. However there are cases of TBI in which change doesn't help as the brain is injured however there are ways to improve and live a better life.

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If you make zero attempts to better your situation then yes you are at fault for your suffering. Too often people shelter themselves in little bubbles and it ends up being harder to crawl out of. You have to actively try to be better. If you are trying and it's not working, then no it's not your fault but I'd probably look into other avenues of help at that point.

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If someone makes no attempts to address whatever is causing their suffering, medication, surgery, therapy, in a way yes. Sometimes none of those things work but if you never try you'll never know.

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It depends on the person and time frame. Some people allow it to become them rather than allow it to be something they are just going through. Some ppl decide to stare it in the face and tackle it. Don't think it's a matter of choice, just will power and strength. Some people aren't mentally capable of letting go. They hold on and feel they will always be affected by it. When I faced trauma, the doctor tried to tell me I had PTSD and depression. And I did. But as time went on, I realized once I turned my thinking around the terrors slowly started to fade. I didn't want to live that way anymore. It's sort of like standing and facing your worst fears with a loaded gun in your face. I do still have feelings of terror that creep up when certain things remind of it, but I tell myself it's mental. It's become easier to manage the more I've put things into perspective and it wasn't a walk in the park to force myself to be strong especially when you can't control what triggers and pops up in your mind. Talking helped. Forcing myself to Realize it was over, everything else was in my head and letting go. Hope this helps. Hope you feel better.

Is suffering a choice?

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