Marriage. Sooner or later?

Nicola 🐟 • 💙 Jan 07💙 💛TTC Apr 14💛 💚BFP 5 Jun 16💚 💙💕due Feb 2017💕💙

We've been engaged since 2014. We've never set a date or made any plans but know that one day we will. Eventually.

But I've been thinking about it and I want my child to have the right surname. If we're not married they'll take mine and if we are they'd have his.

So I'm wondering how to actually bring this up with him. he'll completely flip if he knows I won't give my kid his surname if we're not married. But I don't want him to think I'm pushing him into it.

I don't want a big day, dress, guests and all that. I want a marriage, not a wedding. I'd be happy with a register office and a witness. It's him that wants the full works stag do friends and family etc

Anyone got advice?