Venting! 😡

Okay, I need to vent. I am a "house wife". (We aren't married). In his eyes, the female should stay home and cook and clean and not have to worry about making money to pay bills which in a way I think too BUT when I clean EVERYDAY and our house is a mess the next day, it gets a little frustrating. I've said something to him over and over again. I have even left him bc he didn't appriciate the things I did. He change a lot, I can say that but he's back to not keeping things clean and I just don't know how to go about telling him. I'm a very timid person. I've been in a auspice relationships both verbally and mentally and also physically so I'm shy to tell people my feelings. I don't know what to do or say to him? Any advice?