Any of you ladies feel unattractive

I lost my baby weight pretty fast and strangers tell me how good I look but it feels like my husband is off in his own world. He doesn't come Up to hug me while I'm cooking, he doesn't grab my hand in the car, slap my ass when I walk by like he used to,and he hasn't gave me a compliment in forever! The only time in 4 months he's said anything was when he was looking at old pictures of me and said you're hot . Which of course I took as "you were hot" I got the OK from the Dr last week but I got new birth control so she said wait 2 more weeks unless you use protection. He wont wear a condom so he hasn't Even shown interest. This is our 2 child and I remember him chomping at the bit to do it last time. I'm over whelmed, exhausted and feel so ugly: ( ughhhh idk what to do