Mother in law issues.... any one else?

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I don't mean to sound bitchy I just need to vent? I guess... and ask for help or advice... just a little info on me and my situation 
I'm 36 weeks and 3 days in to a high risk pregnancy  also a mommy to a 9 year old 7 year old and 18 MONTH OLD  ......

Ok so here's my story if you will..... 
I have never in my life felt so alone...
My mother in law moved in with us almost 2 years ago to help me around the house after having our son was born in 2014, well November of 2015 my husband and I found out that SURPRISE we are expecting again!

I swear to you it's almost like she (my mother in law) is jealous or something.... she has been so demanding and whinie... no joke... like she will stay in her room all day and not help me with anything and as soon as my husband walks through the door she jumps up and acts like she's been Cinderella all day then goes on the attack and also because very demanding and demands that he starts thing stuff around the house like hang her shelves or move her dresser cause she don't like it there or whatever crazy thing she comes up with then goes on to tell my husband how I need to do more....I do everything!

I just...I just don't know what to do. I feel like she's acting out cause she's demanding  to be in the delivery room and insisting that she will be  in there when Kadon is born however my husband and I  both want it to be only us with no one else not even my mom... this is our special moment and we want it for us.... I almost feel bullied cause she starts up with the poor pitiful me and pulls a victim card real quick :( I should be happy I'm about to have a baby but all I can think about is what type of drama will I be facing :(

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Unfortunately, I think you need to have an open conversation with your husband at this point and voice your need to have him set some firm boundaries with your MIL.  I definitely get where you are coming from as my MIL flat out told me she didn't think investing in a relationship with me was worth it since I am basically just an extension of my husband.
If she moved in to help out and is no longer willing to do so, you and yeah ur husband have every right to let her know it is time for her to find her own space. I know it's not easy, but setting firm boundaries is all you can do with in laws because they aren't going to change for you.

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It might be time for her to go. She feels like she has some sort of power over your family and can just demand as she pleases. She's not being a good example for the kids and isn't being respectful of your family. She may need to leave in order to learn that she needs to have respect for you and your home. If not, the kids may learn from her that they don't need to respect you.

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Tell her its hospital policy and just call and talk to someone in labor in delievery prior and they will back you up.

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If snap! I don't know how you could prove it to your hubby, but I'd make sure he knew. Or at least voice that you're not happy with the living situation anymore. Good luck momma! Keep your head up and don't let her bring you down

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I feel you.. I clean the house everyday for my mother in law, she never picks up after herself. She comes home and tells my boyfriend that the house isnt clean that i dont know how to clean ect..  she expects me to scrub down the walls like if im cinderella...

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you both need to talk to her and see what's behind this behaviour. i guess she feels not needed anymore now that her son is all grown up, so she's looking for attention in all the wrong ways. 
sometimes you need to treat your parents like children.

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Personally, I could NEVER live with my MIL.  so huge props to you for letting her move in.

Regardless of what position she thinks she holds in your home, it's YOUR home.  And also your husband's responsibility to handle things as the main person.  I'd personally tell her it was time to leave.

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Time for MIL to move out! Sit and talk with your hubby and just tell him it's time. Sucks but that's the only way to get peace

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Honestly her ass would be walking out the door with everything she came with, you don't need anyone making u unhappy and uncomfortable in your place of comfort that is ur home. If she's not there to help and respect you then she needs to start packing, ain't no body making me feel unwanted and depressed in my home hell NO. She better not make the door hit her own the way out because she was going out u don't need no drama right now in your life. That baby in your stomach is all the drama and headache u need.

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We did when our son Peighton was born in 2014 and things where great wonderful actually then as soon as we announced that we where unexpectedly expecting again everything  took a horrible turn

Mother in law issues.... any one else?

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