Is it normal to still be hurt by things a guy did to you even though you have no romantic feelings for him and you're with someone else happily?

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So my first love wasn't even a relationship. It was a FWB type of thing but I fell for him. He just wanted me. Physically. Well he was my first for practically everything, besides vaginal inter course. I hear songs that remind me of him and I get upset and so angry. I hate what he did to me. I'm not over what he did to me. He just used me when I was vulnerable. I trusted him and he just took advantage of me. He has hundreds of pictures of me and I don't even know if he deleted them. He said he cared about me. He said I was his best friend. Everything was a lie from him. I'm not romantically attracted to him or attracted to him in anyway. I love someone else. Who I've been with for 6 months and I haven't had a relationship like this in a long time. Is it normal for me to be upset that my ex-whatever took advantage of me?

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According to you, you're in love and happy with someone else.

You guys where practically just sex buddies...Why live in the past, and dig up all the past hurt and feelings.? Obviously, he's a douche.

Honestly, let it go ( I mean that in the nicest way possible.) Don't let someone from your past drag you down.

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I think it's normal to hold resentment about a situation like that... I'm still upset about the way my marriage ended and the way he treated me during our relationship, but I've happily been with my current man for almost 2 years and I've tried to learn from my mistakes and grow as a person and a partner.

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Old flames never burn out haha

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He's obviously not worth the time and effort. Forgive him, you're better off now and know to be cautious with people. Trust me, I know how it feels. Let it go, you'll be so much happier.

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I'm afraid you still have some kind of feelings for him, if you didn't, it wouldn't hurt you thinking of what he did, try to forgive him so you can be happy :)