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The older generations can't stand when a woman gets pregnant and she isn't married. Don't rush your relationship based on what your mom or anyone else says especially now that your pregnant. Take your time. You said you're not in a rush and comfortable with where your relationship is. Do what makes you happy. Personally, I would tell your mother to back off. You're an adult and it is your life. Y'all go at the pace that makes you both comfortable. Good luck! Also, congratulations on your pregnancy!
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Okay girls I am so frustrated. A couple days ago I told my mother that I was pregnant. She was disappointed not really sure why even though she tried to explain. I'm 21 and this will be my first child. But anywho I told her I was pregnant and she immediately went into marriage mode. Asking me were me and the boyfriend going to get married since we started this family. She said we have been playing house for too long and we need to make it official. We have been together for 5 years. I have my own house and he doesn't stay with me all the time. He has clothes and things here but he hasn't officially moved in. My mother keeps pressuring me to ask him to move in and ask him if he is ever going to marry me. I'm not in a rush because I know where we stand with each other. And I know where our communication lies. We have talked about it plenty of times before. But now she is jumping down my throat just to get answers.
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My parents were upset too, I'm 35 and my boyfriend and I have been living together for a year and a half. This is my first and his second. We have talked about marriage, but I don't want either of us to wake up one day and feel like we are only married bc of our child. I've seen too many marriages fail that existed only bc of a child. I want us to marry bc we love each other and want the whole world to know we plan to be together for life. I think once the baby is born my parents will come around to the idea.
Just tell her you guys are happy where you are in your relationship and when you guys are ready to take the next step you will do so when it feels right :) when our son was born two years ago our parents said the same thing. We had been together for a few years and they felt that was just the right thing to do. We told them we were happy where we were in our relationship and that when we felt the time was right we would make it official. That was the best decision we ever made! I think if we took the advice of our parents two years ago, we wouldn't have the relationship we have now. Congrats on the baby! :)
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