Hey ladies (and the few gentlemen that post on here) recently I have been posting about my stepson and the issues that I have with his grandmother, but I honestly need some guidance. So first let me give you some background, My Husband and I have been together almost 4 years, I have been in my stepson's life since he was 3. As long as I have been around them, my step son's mother has been in and out of his life, and will make promises to him that she can't keep which I know that hurts him and it's gotten to the point where we have had to ask because he wants his mother. This little boy has watched his mother walk away and I know that he's been through a lot and I do my best to show him that I am here and that I love him unconditionally. Within the past year though his mother and I have been getting a long a little bit better but I sense some bitterness because she knows I'm 7 months pregnant and it clear to her that I'm not going anywhere. Within the past month though I have seen some behavioral changes in my step son, and I don't know if I am doing anything wrong and I can't seem to rack my brain around it. It's starting to get to the point where if something doesn't go the way he wants it to and if I ask him to do something he doesn't want to do, he either A)Ignores me B)gets mad to the pint where he stomps in his room and slams the door C)He starts the get upset and growls at me and balls his fists up and threatens me. I don't know if maybe it's that I am not home enough, which has been hard because I am a shift manager for Starbucks Coffee company and I have already started cutting down my days so I can spend more time with him, and In September I am no longer closing because I would be getting closer to my due date. But in the mornings before I leave for work and on the days I have off I ensure that I set aside time for him. Recently there was.... I don't know what to call it anymore honestly..... So on Wednesday I took him to his dental appointment and since currently we dont have a running car at the moment due to the fact that the transmission is so messed up that the car drives backwards only, I took him Via metro rail and bus... So we go to the part of town where his dentist office is so to Kill some time because we were early I took him to Starbucks and got him what he wanted (I really wanted to make today special for him since we rarely go Into town together because I travel into town for work). After that we went to the dentist office and while he was getting his teeth cleaned and getting his check up, I was filling out some paperwork and calling the school to see if they needed anything from the dentists office. After he was done we had to wait in the waiting room for a moment because I was trying to schedule his next appointment and I was letting him at on my phone to occupy his time a little bit. After wards (and yes we waited 30 min to eat after his cleaning as the dentist instructed) I took him out to lunch. Everything was going pretty well. So after that we went to the bank and then we went to my Husband's store (yes he works for Starbucks as well) escape the heat and he dropped his lollipop on the bus floor and he got upset. So I tried to explain it to him that it wasn't that big of a deal and also that I was planning on treating him to Ice cream after we got to our destination. So he expressed his himself that he didn't want ice cream anymore he wanted his lollipop, so I told him I would get him another because the one that was dropped was no longer good and he was fine with that. So we get to our destination and take a seat at my husband's store and he asks to play on my phone and I give it to him. After we take our break, we then go to the grocery store next door and I had to pick up TP and I got him him 2 pack of Dum-dums(I let him pick and got 2 bags since they were on sale) and he asked me if we could go to the play ground, it was around 6:00 pm so I said sure and I let him know only for a little bit because we have a long ride home (we have to catch 3 buses from where we were to get home). So I take him to the park and originally we were going to be there for 15 min but I decided we could stay longer because he was having so much fun. So about 10-15 min before we had to go I asked him to take a seat and dry off because he was soaked because another kid was spraying him with a water gun. He got upset at me because he didn't want to go, but I explained to him the he needs to dry off some so he doesn't get sick on the bus. So he's crying as we're leaving the park and he's stomping his foot and I told him that I understand that he is upset but acting that way isn't okay. So we get on the first bus to get down 4 blocks because the main bus to get home was coming in about 10-12 min. He was quiet and was pouting and I left him alone. So when we got off the bus and I saw the other one coming he wouldn't willing move and if we missed that bus the next one wouldn't come for another 45 min. So I grab his hand and sadly I had to pull him across the street but he tried to kick me and say that I was breaking his arm, he called me brat and etc. We get on the bus and he wouldn't have a seat and when I asked him to have a seat he said no and told me to.shut up so I plucked him, now I don't condone spanking, speaking as a child who went through child abuse but what he was doing good was unacceptable. he got.uoset and sat down and told me he hated me and all that kind of stuff and he wouldn't listen at all... So I did what I thought was best and I tried to call his father. Of course he answered and my stepson cover3d his ears so he wouldn't have to listen to his father and he tried to throw my phone given that my phone died soon after I gave him time and when we.got off the bus and I explained to.him that his behavior is not okay and I am not going to tolerate it, his response was that he was asleep the entire time and he said it with an attitude that made my blood boil 😠😬. So we got on our last bus and got off at our last stop and he had a 19 min walk to our house. So I told him was what going to happen and that since he was going to act like he wasn't doing anything wrong and of course he showed no remorse that he was go8ng to eat dinner and go straight to bed. He ignored me and so I told him we weren't moving u til I hear a yes, yes mam, or an okay and he tolde.to shut up again. I used him again for that and of course that hurt his feelings but he wouldn't budge and then he nodded. So he wouldn't cross the street again and he was stating he wanted to go to his mother's house and if I didn't he was found guilty to pee on himself and I told him I couldn't because it was on the other side of town and that we were going home and he growled at me and cried and did it. He kept going at hi and then said he wanted to go home and he was growling at me some more and I didn't know what to do at that moment I really wanted to cry but then I told him this I told him he decides when we go home because I will not go home with him like this and when he decides to get himself together we will go home it took him an hour to understand that I was serious and to stop. I hope estate don't know what to do anymore and when my husband asks him he tells him that he just wants to act that way... please help me out I'm really trying here and idk what else to do... 😭