Is this right?

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When me and my boyfriend argue he calls me fat, says I'm stupid, thick, a slag, calls me every name under the sun. He then said I have a huge problem with not being able to let things that are said out of anger go... But when he says things like this it completely destroys my confidence. I don't like being naked or getting changed in front of him. I don't have a very high self esteem anyway and it's not helping at all. I've tried explaining to him how it makes me feel but he says it's just out of anger and I need to let it go. Am I being silly? Am I overreacting?

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Kick his sorry butt to the curb! He calls you those things because he is insecure about himself!

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Verbal and mental abuse ? No not ok. Sounds like he needs a counselor for those anger issues, and no girlfriend.

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No you are definitely not! No matter how angry they get they should never call you names!!! That's just horrible. If he doesn't change I would leave him

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I have been with my husband for eight years and he has never called me bad names or said those things to me. Of course as women we all think we're fat and he always makes a point to tell me how beautiful I am. You do not deserve to be knocked down and if it were me I wouldn't put up with it. It's just disrespectful and he obviously doesn't care how you feel in any way.

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You need to let him go hun, no one should EVER make you feel like that. You should be treated as the beautiful woman you are, stay strong girl, it'll be okay

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No, you're not overreacting, it sounds like he has some serious anger issues and if he refuses to see it as a problem you should consider breaking up. That isn't healthy.

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I have been with my husband for 14 years and he has never called me any of those things (and I have been obese a few times during our time together, though not now) and we have had some NASTY arguments. No one deserves that. You can find better.

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Hell no that's wrong as hell...

My boyfriend and I argue, but never once does he call me out my name & I don't call him out his, that's out of respect. We either come to some kind of agreement or we drop it.

I have a cousin who is in a relationship that's bad, and the arguing is horrible. She calls him every "bitch, bum ass, dumb ass, etc" she can think of and he does the same to her. It's not healthy, and if he's not willing to understand how it makes you feel, maybe you need to leave him or take a break and think... It only gets worse!

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No you are not over reacting. That's verbal abuse. You shouldn't have to put up with ever being called a name like that. My SO and I have had some very heated fights and he would never say anything like that to me, if he did I'd leave him.

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No your not. You need to let him go or you'll have emotional issues later on and may need therapy.