Mental Abuse?

Question

Hi, I'd like to stay anonymous My Father and His girlfriend have been mentally abusing me for years. Since I was 12 they constantly say horrible things about me to bring me down and make me feel low about myself. When I was 14 ( don't judge) I remember it used to be so bad I would cut myself because of them, I hated myself. I would starve myself. cause they would say how I'm fat & ex. I never wanted to leave my room to be around them &I Still don't. I'm always At my friends house because I can't take it there. My father has never do anything for me either. If i ask him for some shorts or sandals he says he has no money but yet he will go out & buy weed ( he has done this numerous times). I'm only 16. I will be 17 in September. Please don't judge.

UPDATE ; 
Could I call the police? I can't live with My mother. Idek what to do. I have a counselor but she never answers on weekends.

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Omg hunny this reminds me of my past with my father. He would mentally and physically abuse me and he was also doing drugs. I've been so much during my childhood. I would run away. Couldn't live with my mom because she passed away when I was 12 years old. I would always hang at my friends house cuz I never wanted to go home. Finally at 15 I got a job and kept working from there so I could leave all the abuse. At 17 years old my father kicked me out. So from there I worked, got my own place and paid bills. I didn't care how broke I was because I didn't have to take the abuse anymore. So maybe that's what you need to do. Please don't harm yourself anymore. You can get through this. I know it's so hard at the moment but you will get through this. I wish you all the luck in the world and stay strong hun. Maybe talk to a therapist and get some advice. Don't think it's you because it's not!! Keep your head up girl

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Get a job asap.. Sleep over your friends houses as much as you can. Make sure you're still focusing on school and get good grades so you can get a scholarship. One more year and get the heck out of there. Start saving now.

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I'm really sorry. Do you have other family members you can talk to? Maybe you can get someone to talk to them for you and explain to them that they should treat you better.

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Im am very sorry. I know how you feel. I was 10/11 when my grandfather that I lived with would tell me I wasn't loved, I was a dumb ass, i wasnt gonna amount to anything. He would scream in my face for no reason, slap my head against the table if I got a homework problem wrong. I wasn't allowed to see my friend's, go out side, I couldn't go to the mall because I had no money. My grandmother was there but didn't bother to help me because she didn't want to deal with him. I never told my mom or dad because I knew they couldn't take Care of me at the time so if I said anything it would just make it worse on me. He favored my brother, he was the boy my grandpa alway's wanted. He never did anything wrong. He was allowed to be late, never grounded, allowed to leave. Etc. It really tore me apart as a child. I almost killed myself by jumping out my window(top floor)but I told myself it wasn't worth it. They give him excuses because he's an ex marine drill Sargent and because of his history in battle he need's to take meds and those really mess with him. At that age I didn't know and that was still no excuse to treat your grandchild that way. I did ask him why he treated me like that and he said because "I look like my mom" my mom and him didn't get along at the time. So he took it out on me. Im 25 and till this day it still effect's me, I wish I would have said something then. I told my mom last year what has happened and she was very angry, she said if i would have said something they would have gotten me out of there. Tell someone. A teacher, friend, close relative. Don't let them get to you! Cutting yourself IS NOT the way to handle something. DO NOT give them the satification, talk to someone. The friend you are staying with do they know? Can you possibly move in? Where is your mom? Emancipate yourself from your dad. Try to find a job(I know it's hard)but don't ask for anything from them. I'm am very sorry you have to deal with this bullshit! I wish I could help you!

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I'm sorry you don't have an adult to care for you. Can't even imagine having your own father treat you that way. I would look for another family member that would take you in and care for you.. Keep us updated. I hate to think you are all alone

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U need to confide in an adult.  Someone who can help u make positive choices for your future. U have been strong so far but it's a heavy burden to carry alone. X

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Im not judging you! I understand you ... Sometimes life isnt fair we as humans cant choose our family ... And as a teenager entering young adult hood I can imagine the things you have seen and the lifestyle your home life entails it sounds alot like my own. However its your choices that make all the difference 
For example I quite easily could have sold illegal drugs, fast cars and collected the dole for a living instead i got a job and saved $2000 it took me 6 months working weekends but i was determined then i got my own place and another job I pushed forward and I got sick of it I moved home i missed it in a weird way 3 weeks later i had another place lined up because i told myself there was no place in my life for drugs etc ...

My mum hate that i left so did my siblings ... But u gotta do the best for u however dont recreate ur parents house at your house always be aware set goals and smash them

Your so young but at such an impressionable age too you just need to decide what you want from life and the kind of life you want to have and the type of person you want to be!!!! xxxx 
P.S your much stronger than you think you can survive this .. Make sure u seek professional help when needed! xx

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