big thighs and butt

ok can anyone else relate to being really self conscious about really big thighs and a butt , like even though it's "in" right now LOL, and I know guys like that for whatever reason haha but it's so hard to like find jeans that fit right :( and it gets frustrating !! and like how does that make someone more attractive now ? like what advantage does it give to your partner ? weird question and probably obvious but I seriously don't get it